Do we forgive when there is no repentance? What signifies repentance? When there is no repentance, do we rebuke the offender? Just curious about all this as it really applies to my life lately. Thanks.
2007-02-19 12:37:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Muneca, it helped. That was an honest answer worded with sensitivity. However, I disagree.
2007-02-19 13:19:56 · update #1
1. We forgive however many times we feel comfortable forgiving - whether it is once, twice, or continuously.
2. A person can forgive if there is no repentance. Sometimes a person can understand something about someone, and the realization helps them to understand and forgive the person, even though they continue as is.
3. A person that shows repentance would show sorrow or regret for what they've done. This might be through words or actions... I think how it's expressed is really dependent on the person.
4. It's really up to the offended person whether or not they feel that they should rebuke the offender. However, the offended person should keep in mind that the rebuke may have absolutely no effect.
There are so many different types of situations, and how we deal with forgiveness is connected to the type of situation that we encounter. Women in domestic violence situations often forgive repeatedly and stay in a relationship when they should walk away. Others hold on to their anger and bitterness, offering no forgiveness, and it hurts them more than it hurts anyone else.
I hope this helps.
2007-02-19 13:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by ms_lain_iwakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
77 times is how many times we should forgive, meaning we should always forgive, continue to forgive. Even though it sometimes will take time and at times be frustrating we should. Do we always? Sometimes we don't because our own anger steps in the way but we should. Some people might mean things and some don't even know they are offending others, some are just normally that way. We forget that we might be in the same situation at times and might be offending other all the time without knowing.
You forgive them whether there is repentance or no repentance. It makes you clear with no offense they will have to deal with their own demons or come in time to repentance (ask for forgiveness).maybe speak to them , tell them something hurt or bothered you if they say nothing say you forgive them, if you think it will make a case then forgive them in your heart. You might have to speak when things are better so both can forgive each other.
Repentance is when you ask for forgiveness or want to be forgiven, you know what you done, or was told, acknowlege it and turn from your ways, you mean it with all your heart and will try your best not to do it again. If it is a habit thing this might be harder for some poeple as they may need help to stop. Look at the situation with sensitivity and see if it is a habit, a culture thing or something they grew up with and kind of stood with them because of lack of something.
Don't rebuke them, then you will be a person with a problem of not letting go of things or releasing people. Let them go, forgive them totally without holding anything in your heart you will know when you wish and want the best for the other person. It at times takes time.
I'm not sure if these questions helped you, but i shared with what was in my heart.
2007-02-19 13:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by muneca7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone else said that this is up to you; whatever you are comfortable with. I think that under certain situations one can and should forgive even though no repentance is shown by the offender. If you have become too tired to forgive then just cut that individual out of your life: it's just not worth the trouble to carry on same as before, If being with that person always, predictably makes you unhappy - then drop them, no matter who they may be.
2007-02-19 15:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many times do we forgive and forget, should have been the question...we forgive and forget (or better, pretend to forget, try to accept), again and again, especially to lying or cheating partners, one of the reasons surely because we don't like change; however, the point comes for everyone, when you can hopefully only forgive one last time, and then walk away...
2007-02-19 12:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ourselves? as many times as necessary. Others? 77 times as ordained by Jesus. If we don't we ourselves suffer all the more.
My own bit of insight is to forgive does not mean to feel victimised. One must confront and demand reasons.
2007-02-19 13:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can forgive but don't have to forget. sometimes it is OK to say i accept. but you can walkaway
2007-02-19 12:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋