lately ive been hitting and kicking my boyfriend. just out of nowhere i kick and punch him. and today i punched him in the face accidentally sometimes i do it with a smile but it really hurts him. when he is like "whats that for?!" i say "you deserve it" but the thing is, i dont know im even doing it, i dont mean to, and i keep doing it. whats wrong? how do i stop?
2007-02-19 12:02:40 · 17 answers · asked by CoolBeanz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ANGER MANAGEMENT!
oh and rock on sometimes guys just need to get samcked because they need it
2007-02-19 12:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by Oo.HopelessRomantic.oO 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the word BI*CH come to mind? You need to stop it. And stop it now. What's the matter with you? If you and your boyfriend are really close then you should ask him for his help. Tell him that you don't like the way you've been treating him but you can't help yourself. Tell him to hit you back or something. Then maybe you will have a fear that you too will get hit and then you'll stop. If this doesn't work then you really need to control yourself. Maybe you can have your friends help you or something. That is soooo wrong. What will you do when you have kids? Beat them cause you love them? You need to stop and start now. Have people put fear in you that you will get hit back. It's the only way you'll stop it. And tell them to make sure that if you hit them that they in turn hit you back to where you know you've been hit. I know it sounds nasty but that's how you teach a little child. If they bite you bite back. If they hit you hit back. Eventually they realize that it will hurt when it comes back. Maybe you need a little lesson to learn it. You'll see. It will work.
2007-02-19 20:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to continue if he doesn't put a stop to it, as long as he allows it you'll find no wall to stop you. I know because I did that with someone but it was mainly I started not being nice to him. I stopped and felt so bad the day he got upset and snapped at me. So, you need to tell him you don't want to continue and to help you stop by not accepting it.
2007-02-19 20:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to have the same problem when my guy and i fought a lot. we were in a heated arguement one time and he was driving.
i yanked the rear view mirror off of the windshield and in the same motion...across the side of his face. i didn't know where it came from and it really scared me.
i went to see a counselor and she told me i wasn't bipolar or anything just angry. my fiance and i have worked through our issues and i haven't done anything like that in a long time.
you should really try harder to get to the bottom of what is causing you to do this and if you can't fix it...you really shouldn't be with him. i know...you probably don'twant ot hear that but you can't live your life being abused or abusing someone!
P.S. that's not how you teach a child!!! to ME2
2007-02-19 20:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by pamcake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an aggresion issue you might want to talk to a profesional either martial arts or the language of self defense.
2007-02-19 20:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by matthew m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are angry about something and it probably has nothing to do with your boyfriend. Until you get to the root of your anger, you will PUSH your friends away.
What happened to you to make you angry? Search for it, talk about it and deal with it. You can do it.
2007-02-19 20:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a boyfriend that enjoys this!
He's lucky you dont have Tourette's syndrome!
2007-02-23 11:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Triskelion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say you are mad about something you are not dealing with. something is definitly bothering you and maybe you should talk to a professional to see what that is. yeah, go talk to someone before this gets too serious.
2007-02-19 20:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Luvbuz01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is bothering you that your not telling us about. It probably has nothing to do with your boyfriend.
Whatever it is, you should go to someone you trust and talk to them about it. Be honest and open. After you talk about it, you will be more relaxed.
2007-02-19 20:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by MR MONEY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
poor guy! just stop it! everytime u think about punching him or something instead give him a kiss or something.
2007-02-19 20:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by CherryCherry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋