I've known my friend for almost about 5 months. I love her conversations but lately she has been making strange comments. First, I don't find it difficult to attract guys with my looks alone. My friend on the other hand is not as attractive but she is very outgoing. Most guys start the conversation talking with me, but end it talking to her. Anyway, there is a guy on campus she goes crazy over. I most admit, he is a very attractive guy but the thing she and I notice about him is that, he only dates the best of the best looking girls. If you are a very attractive girl, this guy will get with you some sort of way. Anywho, yesterday she made a comment saying she would love to get with this guy, but he only dates the best looking girls. Then she went on to say "He would never date a girl like you and me". When she made that comment my jaw dropped. I strongly think if I wanted this guy, and dedicated my time to him I could have him. What do you think my friend meant by this commen? Does she think I’m ugly?
2007-02-19 11:45:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She probably doesn't think you're ugly, but she's probably so comfortable with you that she feels you're not superficial like so many very pretty girls are.............so she doesn't think of you in a class of girls that this guy dates. You should probably take it as a compliment. You have more to you than just the looks. It sounds like he dates just looks and not brains and personality.
2007-02-19 11:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by lostjane 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen...a few things.
A. get over yourself. Thats not really mature. You shouldnt base your friendship by how good looking you are in comparison, or how much you think you are better looking. Thats really corny.
B. She most likely just wanted to categorize her with you so she didnt feel as singled out by making that comment.
She could have really opened herself up for a hurting. If she said "he would never date a guy like me" and you said nothing, or even said "yeah" ...then she would have felt the same way you feel now.
So instead, she said... he would never date a guy like "US" to feel better and categorize herself with you.
And lastly, just bc she is not as goodlooking to YOU, does not mean a guy would not rather have her over you. She might be outgoing, and funny, and sexy...and you might just be good looks with the personality of a corpse...so who knows, maybe she's number 1 in a lot of guys books.
I think you should stop worrying about what your friend thinks of you, since she didnt say it directly, and start focusing on how to maintain a solid friendship with your heart and mind instead of just looking into it from a shallow eye.
Thank you, come again.
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2007-02-19 11:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by RelentlessArrogance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So-
basically what you're saying
is that you felt insulted
that she placed the two of you
at the same level of attractiveness-
(or non-attractiveness)
when you actually know you're
better-looking than she is?
LOL!!
That's what this is really about.
If you know you're more attractive
than your friend-
then it doesn't matter
what she says-
it ONLY matters WHAT you know-
My guess is she knows
that she doesn't have a
snowball's chance in hell
of getting him-
BUT-
she also doesn't want
you to have him either-
and she already realizes
that looks-wise- the odds
are stacked in your favor-
hence the reason for her 'downplay'.
It would be wise to let it go-
unless you REALLY want this guy.
2007-02-19 11:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps that was just her way of telling you to stay away from him, that she likes him and she feels threatened by you.
She would probably feel very betrayed if you ended up with him.
That is one possibility.
Another possibility is that she just feels really comfortable with you and considers the two of you as one, like a team. And with that, maybe she trusts you enough not to do anything to end up with him.
Hope this helped.
2007-02-19 11:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, she doesn't mean you're ugly, she is simply saying that there are other girls besides you on campus, and I agree with the second comment, you seem a bit conceited, so you should just accept the fact that you may be pretty, but you're not the school's beauty queen
2007-02-19 11:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by iceprincess097 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you seem a bit conceited. She's probably not saying you're ugly she's maybe just saying that you need to get off your high horse and realize you're not the hottest girl on campus.
2007-02-19 11:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by cisco632 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She just thinks you're not as attractive. But then, don't you feel the same way about her?
"My friend on the other hand is not as attractive but she is very outgoing. "
2007-02-19 11:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. My jaw dropped when I was reading that. Omg. Well sometimes I say one thing and mean the other and my friend gets mad at me. But if someone said that to me than I would think to myself "Hey, u sayin i'm ugly?" But she meant it harmlessly. So don't look too deep into it. Forget about it. Besides she said *girls like U and ME* so that would mean that she's calling herself ugly too i guess. rite? yes.
2007-02-19 11:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by CherryCherry 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She either means she thinks you are in the same class as her lookswise or she knows you are better looking but doesnt want to admit it. If it bothers you then go out with the shallow guy and prove her wrong.
2007-02-19 11:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may have said it that way, to not put herself down. A guy like that, needs a look in the mirror-when he is older, grey, and maybe even bald.
2007-02-19 11:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋