My family feels I don't show good judgement in the people I meet and the overall choices in my life. I'd like to prove them wrong. Help me.
2007-02-19 11:44:26 · 10 answers · asked by padiwan2 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
take your time in making important decisions and weigh up the pros and cons first. Then they will see that you are considering options carefully and not making harsh judgements.
But in my opinion dont worry too much about what they think..... you can never please all the people all thetime, its your life and you will always learn and in the end benefit from your ow mistakes.
Thay should love you unconditionally, not just when they agree with what you do.
2007-02-26 08:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good rule of thumb for making decisions is, would I want to be reading about this in the paper tomorrow morning? It can be a tabloid or a legitimate paper, depending on what you feel comfortable with or what kind of lifestyle you lead.
As far as the people you hang with, well that's a little more difficult, but I suppose that you could use this. If the **** hit's the fan, is this person going to have my back? Perfect example, the two of you get caught doing something wrong, but there is no hard evidence, would they rat you out to save themselves?
2007-02-19 19:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by John P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Practice makes permanent" is a good rule of thumb.
If your gut is telling you these people are good, and your family is saying the opposite, try and figure out why and what appeals to you in these people.
In view of the other comments--and in light of your choices being challenged, I ask you what are you really feeling? If you're drawn to these "people" out of rebellion or resentment, then my rule of thumb suggests you're becoming comfortable with being a rebel or being contrary. What are you "getting" from these people? A sense of freedom? A sense of enlightenment? Escape from oppressive expectations of family?
What you get used to does become habit, so as another poster said: would you want to read about this in the paper tomorrow--or 5 years from now? Where do you want to be 5 years from now? That is what you should strive to fill your life with.
2007-02-19 19:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Yenelli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family disagrees with your choices in the above areas you could try two things: 1st, try to see the situation from their point of view. Often things take on quite a different look if we view from the outside rather than the inside. 2nd, try to project the choices into the future, asking yourself where they are likely to take you. You have an internal barometer, use it. Often a simple 'gut-check' will tell you if a decision is wise.
2007-02-19 20:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by featherstone_33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes u feel comfortable and happy matters, not what they think. For good judgement- I'd say good experience.
2007-02-19 19:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by eyesontheprize 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I tell my 17 year old daughter. If your gut tells you its wrong and it keeps telling you that, then you know its wrong. Weigh out the situation is it worth getting in trouble for?
2007-02-19 19:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be aware of mortality & respect all things the way you would like to be respected.
2007-02-19 19:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by the Boss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing Its in a person character.....that you choose to keep company with.
2007-02-19 19:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think before you do or say anything to anybody. it helps a lot
2007-02-25 13:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think before you do anything.
2007-02-19 19:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by lostjane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋