Should I break up with her or try and make it work?

Question

I have been seeing a girl for 2 months now and we were friends before that but things have been different this past week. She told me she wanted to be alone friday night and that she was upset and had a stressful day. I then found out she sat with some friends. No big deal, but it hurt my feelings she didnt want me to be there to comfort her. She said she loved me first and so i let her into my heart but friday she told a friend and the friend told me she said she couldnt see her self marrying me so i confronted her and she said that she thought we were moving way too fast and didnt know about the future. Dont get me wrong i never said anything about marriage just that i was looking for a serious relationship. I really love her but i am looking for a relationship that is going to be long term. Should I end it now inorder to keep it from hurting more later if it doesnt work. I havent ever really broken up with anyone before either or should i try to make it work.

I tried to date her when we first met but she was just getting out of a relationship and just wanted to be friends. We have always been sexual. She has a daughter that i absolutly adore. If i do break up how do i save the friendship

Answer 1

This is a very complicated situation.
I wish you the best of luck.

The first thing you need to do is talk to her.
It doesnt seem like there has been enough communication in this relationship as there should be. Even if you have talked about it before, try again. Explain all your feelings to her, and ask her to do the same. She needs to know everything you are feeling right now, and you need to know the same from her. This will help clear up some things you have been questioning. Once you have a talk with her about your feelings about this relationship, then you can decide what is best for you. I hope the turnout of this is good!

good luck

Answer 2

Well, first off, you need to give her a bit of space. I have someone in my life that wants to spend every waking moment with me but there are times I would rather be with a friend. That doesn't mean I don't care for him deeply - only that there are times I need to be with my girlfriends, too. Without him. There are things I am more comfortable discussing with certain people. She might have her circle that she knows can relate to what she is experiencing. Give it time - if it is meant to be she will bring you into that circle.
2 months is a bit fast to be getting too serious or too possessive. Slow it down and relax. This isn't the type of situation to get uptight over. She may not have even planned getting together with her friends - they may have contacted her and she was feeling better, they may have heard she was stressed and decided to do an impromptu cheer-up session. Who knows. Healthy relationships are generally those in which you are both allowed to have a little bit of a life outside of each other. Not dating or cheating but at least socializing with friends.

Answer 3

if you two get along well as friends, try making your meetings more based towards hanging out instead of being a couple. She's probably having doubts and her friends may be trying to convince her that she shouldn't be dating you. That can put a lot of pressure on her. Give her some time, and again, tyr to make your dates around something you both enjoy or some sort of physical activity and if any affections moves are made, let her make them first for awhile. If it doesn't resolve after awhile, it's up to you.

Answer 4

Personally, yes, I'd break up. That seems to be where this is headed anyway. It looks like you are something to do until someone comes along that she wants to spend the rest of her life with. The sooner you are free, the sooner you can start looking for that lucky lady that wants to spend the rest of her life with you...and when you run into her you don't want to be tied down, right?! As far as friends, why not as long as you both want to stay friends. She may love as a friend but I don't see this turning into real love. Good luck

Answer 5

I think that the two of you should sit down and have a good long talk before you make any decisions. Maybe you are moving way to fast for her. Did you even ask? Maybe she needs to go slow. If you two were friends before you started your relationship and you don't want to loose the friendship, you need to talk.

Answer 6

Don't 4get wen u go wit ur friends from time to time u will fall back into friend mode....I think u should make it work...but if she continues to do little silly things like dat then u should say we need to go back to being friends

Answer 7

sounds like u 2 arent going to be a long-term thing, or much longer in fact.
maybe u should try finding someone else.
sorry.

Answer 8

Such situations are common and accept it patiently. Spare some time, talk to her and communicate well so that you can understand her need. I hope this will improve soon.

Answer 9

Dump her quick. There's too many good women available.