Am I Starting To Hate All Men Because Of Other Jerks?

Question

Hi guys,
I'm starting to get afraid of my thoughts. Im starting to resent men to the point where I dont even get excited when I meet a nice attractive man. I always think in the back of my head "here we go again". I always think they have another aganda & want to use me for sex because thats what the majority of the dummies I have encountered always do. Nobody wants a wife or the responsibility of rearing children. All men seem to want to do is play with a woman & make her believe she is something special until he can get sex & then he starts distancing himself emotionally then soon after physically. I know that Im not gay because women dont do anything for me, but Im getting to the point where I just want to be left alone! Why is the world so unfair? Why do men act so selfishly with out realizing that they are scaring a woman emotionally when they mistreat her and her body? Do men even care?

How many guys really wait for sex or is willing to marry a girl first before sex? MEN LIE! Of course they are not going to walk up to a woman and say "hey, I would love to screw you a few times with no strings attached". They usually get crafty and tell you things and treat you good until they know you've fallen for them. That is decpetion.

Answer 1

Not all guys are the same some of us care and we know how to love but then there are some that change right infront of your eyes and you dont even know it. Believe it or not we get hurt too and we think that most girls are whores but when you find that one special person all of the bad thoughts will leave your mind. Trust me there are some good guys out there i promise.

Answer 2

It sounds as if you've been around the block many times with lot's of jerks. It is unfortunate that a majority of men are just like you state in your question.

Unlike most men, i've always thought that a person has value, has feelings, and a woman should be and needs to be treated with respect.

The younger generation of men these days, it seems they have but one purpose in life and that is to bed every woman they can get their hands on, and once they get enough, they move on to the next woman.

If i were to have to make an educated guess i would say that less than 5% of men under 35 really care about women emotionally all they are looking for is to get laid.

Answer 3

There are some great men out there. Be careful where you are looking. Many people have made a commitment to God and themselves that they will keep pure until the honeymoon night. Do this, let you know that you can trust the indivdual. Else, you might beware...if your kissing someone other than your spouse before marriage....someone might be doing the same during the marriage.

Answer 4

Men have their uses, and they have limitations.
Women are the driving/creating force of the world though---Women must deal with/partner with men to keep the human race going. As women get literacy, education, and life-experiences, they might feel that the world of men is exploiting them. But, in order to have children and satisfy the creative drive to do this, men function as well as they possibly can, and can't help their limitations. NOTHING is more important for survival than creating children----happiness, comfort, knowledge, none of it will keep the human race going if there are no children.

Answer 5

I know this sounds lame but read the book The Bean Trees by Barbara Kingsolver. The main character Taylor has the same problems. I am reading it now and your remind me of her. She gets over it. But she had the same perception of men in different words,

Answer 6

It's not the men- it's your choice in men. Don't blame them, blame yourself for picking them. Learn to make better choices. No one can mistreat you unless you let them. And if you learn not to give your body to a man until you're married, you won't be "used".

Answer 7

Crap happens. Get over it!