So, I'm bi. And I have so far come out to a few of my close friends, but not to my parents. And I'm wondering how to do it..? If (Princess Dorkbutt reads this, please don't post. I want real help. And by the way, sweetie, I'm WICCAN. I don't believe in the Bible or the Christian god. So don't answer.) I am looking for either people that are bi/gay and have come out to their parents (preferably that are a teenager, because I am 15), or people that have tangible, legitimate advice. Thank you so much! =)
2007-02-19 11:04:29 · 9 answers · asked by All!c@ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, since you're "in the family" religiously too I'll actually post a custom answer instead of my copy-paste coming out answer. :)
You've got a couple options. It all depends on how close you want to be to them. If you don't care about your relationship with them and feel it's not worth the hassle, avoid telling them until after you move out and can just block their phone calls if their reaction is hostile. If you don't want to make a big deal out of it, you can just act casual about it. For example if you get a girlfriend and they ask about your love life say that you have a girlfrined but if they ask if you have a boyfriend you can just say not right now. You don't have to do the big coming out thing. If you tell them everything and want to be very close you can also do the whole coming out thing where you sit them down and tell them and talk about it. If they know your faith and are ok with it, then you probably don't have very much to worry about. If they start getting on how "god hates queers" then bring up that you follow a different faith that has no problem with same-sex desires. If they don't know and are very conservative christians then don't mention that. They'll probably make references to devil worship and attempt to "cure" you of these sinful afflictions or whatever. I've been fortunate to avoid the hard-core hate-mongers for a while so I forget how their whole hate rhetoric goes.
Blessed be sister!
2007-02-19 15:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am 15 as well, I'm not attracted to girls or want to date one, but I do "mess around" with girls sometimes just for fun. I suggest that if you really want to tell them, just be straight up with them. Simply sit them down and tell them that you are attracted physically and emotionally to some females and that they will just have to accept that because there is nothing they can do to change it. They might not be happy with this but, it's like I said, they can't do anything about it if it's who you really are! OR, you could just not tell them. You don't necesarilly have to, but if it would make you feel better, go for it. If I were you, I would wait till I moved out in a couple of years before I told them.
2007-02-19 11:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a book called "Now That You Know". It is a guide with some really good information about homosexuality and support stories. When my friends came out to their parents, they gave them the book. I am straight, and I am open to homosexuality. Just sit down with your parents and start up a conversation. Calmly tell them that you are bisexual and ask them their view. Explain that it was not your choice but the way you are.
BTW, that troll Dorkis has been deleted again...so don't worry...
2007-02-19 11:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Busta 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The sooner you tell them, the more time they'll have to deal with it. You should try to explain to them that no, this isn't just a phase, no, I'm not doing this to be provocative, no, I'm not having sex (unless you are, but that's probably a whole other speech).
Good luck.
2007-02-19 11:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by mugenhunt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am also 15. i came out only to my mom so far, i don't really want to tell my dad yet. it was actually pretty easy, i basically just said straight up i think i might be gay. she was a little "well, oookk" at first, but i think shes getting used to it.
2007-02-19 11:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you can say mom and dad im bi and thats the way my life is i like men and woman i would strongly appreciate it if you would except me because im not the only one.
strongly word it!
2007-02-19 11:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by see_the_light? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
become ungay
why do gay people not believe in the bible or god?
is being gay a pshychological thing is it a DISEASE holy shizzle i might get it damn son i gotta run and hide somewhere holy crackers my hands are turning gay wudda hellls
2007-02-19 11:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It isn't necessary to come out. If it seems safer and easier to you, there is NOTHING WRONG with not telling people.
2007-02-19 11:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by chaseunchase 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im bi and a teen but unfortunately i haven;t told my parents yet sorry
2007-02-19 11:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋