I messed around with my best friend who is the same sex as me and she regrets it, but I don't and am not gay

Question

My best friend and I (friends for 6 years now) have talked about what it would be like if we traded boyfriends for a day if it would be entertaining or not and since she doesnt have one it can't happen. But the other day we were really bored, it was a snow day from school, and we had nothing to do so we were watching tv sharing a blanket, when my hand touched her leg and I dont know how things evolved from that but from there "things" just happened. Nothing like this has ever happened between us before or even close, and it was like no big deal at the time because we decided that there was some comfort in having your best friend do that since we know each other better than anyone else does. But now that a few days have passed she is really sad and cant believe that happened and regrets it sooo much. When i truly thought about it I decided that I didnt regret it. I love her so much and would do anything for her and it was so different. I'm not gay but what do I do now? Do I forget it?

Answer 1

1 - she regrets it. so out of respect for her, don't do it again, even if at the time she seems to want to. you know the very next day she'll regret it.
2 - i can understand that it's hard to have a really nice memory and feel like you don't have a right to see it as a "nice" memory. keep that to yourself. you don't need to tell her you have no regrets. in a sense, you do. you regret that things are awkward. knowing you also have some regrets will help her receive closure.
3 - don't tell anyone about it. she's probably embarrassed.

Answer 2

In short - No, dont forget it. However, assuming your fairly confident in your sexual orientation, take this as a sign of how deep your trust goes in your friendship. Obviously, your friendship is strong and full of trust.

The fact that she regrets it doesnt reflect on you. Especially since this seems to have been more of an isolated incident versus sexual intimacy, and more so on the side of experimentation. Her regret probaly has more to do with her being uncomfortable about what happened... this could be for a number of reasons, including the fact that not only was the incident with her best friend, but also was a homosexual encounter.

SO all in all, I would suggest that you view this as a one time thing and leave your friendship at the level it is currently. Clearly neither of you desire to pursue anything further, and continuous focus on this occurance would only serve to cause tension and possibly akwardness.


Good luck to you!

Answer 3

According to scriptures, it states that homosexuality is a sin and it clearly goes against God's word and his commandments for us. God created both man and woman so that we would multiply. He did not create man and man or woman and woman, the Bible says he created woman and man. I understand where you are coming from but you have got to understand that you basically raped your own friend and if she wanted to she could legally press charges against you. That is why she felt so dirty! She just wants to be friends while you on the other hand apparently want more. Sometimes we don't discover our true sexuality until we have actually had sexual intercourse with someone, even if it is with our best friend. Please do yourself a huge favor and tell her you're sorry and that you don't know what came over you but that it wont happen again. Best be careful this does not get out in school cause it could ruin ya both.

Answer 4

I think y'all should talk bout it..no matter how hard she tries not to...the only way to get ova sumthing is to talk to each other...yup yup

Answer 5

No. No memory, no matter how painful, should be forgotten.

Answer 6

get couseling. you are confused or in denial.