I haven't seen my first love in 5 years. We've been broken up for a little over 5 years now and I still haven't gotten over him. I think about him everyday. I'm in a relationship right now and I am really happy but no matter what I do, I can't seem to get over loving my first. Will I ever stop loving him?
2007-02-19 10:49:27 · 24 answers · asked by Emma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was 14. I still have dreams, still wonder but it sure took a long time for me to really be over it and not think about him every day. I realized it wasn't him but the love that I yearned for. 27 years later, I never found that same "love" ever. Mature relationships are different.
2007-02-27 09:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so. My first love was 28 years ago. Even now today, if we see each other there's allot of grinning going on. We don't stop to hold any conversations, because we know what will happen, so we speak and keep going. When I see him, my heart feel so funny and I can't stop smiling. He can call my name in a grocery store and I know who he is without looking at him. It feels like I'm 12 or 13 all over again. We had a relationship when I became divorced and we both decided to be friends, because of the situation he was in. I hear from his sister, that he is back with the same problem all over again. Gosh I wish I could do something to help him. His eyes pierces me, his smile is prettier then mine, he's tall, big long eyes and deep voice that speak with an Ohio accent. He loves nice clothes and nice cars, he have a good job and his mother raised him to have respect and morals. I don't think you ever get over your first, If it's a good one.
2007-02-27 03:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too hard on yourself, and don't pay too much attention to it, either. The thing is... it's your FIRST LOVE. To me, my first love will always take up some small portion of my heart, and when I think of him it still means something, it still matters, it makes me remember those feelings as if I were feeling them right that moment. However, you have to know it probably wouldn't work, you've both probably changed a lot. But if you love him more than the guy you're with right now, it means you don't really love the guy you're with and you should reconsider your relationship.
But yeah... your first love will always be... well, your first love. and that makes him un-get-over-able. Maybe you could even give it a try.. You never know ;) Good luck!
2007-02-27 16:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by ksrairsk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there's different degrees to love. I believe that you never forget your first love, because they were your first. Then there's also your true love, which I believe that not everybody ends up with, I think most people end up "settling" for second. I hate to word it that way, but I don't know how else to put it. I think you're true love is the one that stays with you your whole life. They're the one who no matter how much time has passed, how happy you are, how many people you've loved and relationships you've been in, they will always be in your heart. It doesn't necessarily mean that you're still in love with them, there is a difference, but you still, and will always, love them. I feel for you, though. I kno how miserable, despite your happiness it can make you.
2007-02-26 15:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by devotedlyyours270 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't stop loving anyone, love never dies, all you can do is grow to love someone else..if you love the person you are with it shouldn't be that hard to get over your first love, you can get over someone and still love them at the same time....but you 're not in love with your first love, you just love him, we can love anyone we want, there is no limit. Remember, if you give someone a piece of you, you may never get it back, but don't forget you have the rest of your heart to give to someone else...try not to think about him..if you can't stop then talk to your first love, if he feels the same maybe you two shuoldn't have broken up in the first place, if not then at least you'll know there can never be anything between the two of you and maybe that will help you move on
2007-02-26 17:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with my guy of over 5 yrs and no..u always will think of them. It has not been 5 yrs for me but I am now engaged and I would not say I still have that love for him, I think I just hope he is ok. I took care of him with all I had now its in his own hands ..or someone elses and I do not feel someone can do as good at taking care of him. I gave that relationship all that i could. I love the one i;m with we are happily engaged but I still have those moments on his birthday that i feel i have to call and cause i cannot makes me feel bad.
2007-02-27 15:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Loving someone is not the same as having a successful relationship with him or her. After 5 years, a lot has changed. Just savor the memories and be happy that you had the experience of being with him. Keep moving forward in your life.
2007-02-26 08:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i haven't. but every time it is so different and when it ends up and the tears go away i'm always curious to see what the next love will be alike. you can love two people with the same intensity but in a different way especially if it is 5 years away from now .. but maybe girls don't think so. anyways, be happy.
2007-02-24 14:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Di Snow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first love is married and has babies, but I will always care for him. I'm not in love with him any more, but he will always hold that place in my heart. That place is for him, and no one else can knock him out if it! I will always be concerned about his well-being and his happiness.
A few years ago, I went to his grandmother's visitation. I had not seen him in probably 12 years. He walked over to me, carrying his son. He called his wife, and she came running over to meet me with a big smile on her face. She hugged me. It was neat. If love is real, the connection lasts forever.
It sounds like you need to make a decision to move on with your life. You have to let him go to he truly happy with someone else. You need to make the decision and just do it. When you are ready, maybe you can burn an old letter in a trash can as a symbol of letting him go.
Best of luck.
2007-02-24 12:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a bad marriage and still think about my first love everyday. It has been 12 years. I'm still in love with him. I'm not sure how you get over them or if you ever do.
2007-02-19 19:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by gasnshngrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋