how to gain confidences?

Question

i dont have very much confidence in myself. i go into everything i try say i probably wont win . How do i gain more confidence without feeling like a sore winner

Answer 1

I used to wonder where could I get self esteem from. Finally I realized it's ok to be who I am and I don't need to compare myself to others. I know it's easier said than done because I've been there but you have to understand that no one is better than you, you are making them out to be better in your mind. Stop that. We are just all different. Definitely don't tell yourself discouraging things, they're not going to help, do the opposite. Fake confidence because insecurity shows and that won't bring you winning results. I was unhappy growing up and I was screwed up for my experiences with my dad and other people. I had no control over that then but now I can change all that.

Answer 2

Be skeptical of your own negative conclusions. In a way, turn that negativity back on itself, by doubting your own conclusions that you "won't win". Who says you can't? How do you know that? If you set REALISTIC expectations, and attainable goals, your confidence will build as you achieve each step. Take baby steps if you need to. Start where you are, and build.

You do not need to tell yourself that you are the greatest, most gorgeous, brainy, talented and wonderful being on the planet. Just remind yourself that "if they can do it, so can I."
You are a human being, with all the basic equipment that any other human has. You deserve your fair share of happiness, security, and individuality. You are the product of millions of years of evolution, and as a human, at least as good as any other living creature, and better than most. Look at other people's flaws a little, instead of worshipping them as so much better than you are. Always try to see things in the perspective of reality and reasonable expectations--not grandiose expectations; not limited or demeaning expectations. Just reasonable expectations. "God must love average people, because He made so many of them."

Answer 3

Why do you think that you wont win?? You have to search inside yourself to find out WHY you dont think you are good enough
to be able to win.....whatever it is.

Also, maybe try starting off slow......like at a lower level.
Example....lets say you suck at softball........ start off by getting a glove and get someone to play catch with you or go to a batting cage and ask someone for some advice.

Maybe you aren't winning because you are going for things
that you are NOT yet qualified for.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Actually winning matters very little. It's the effort that counts. I admire the loser that gives 100% more than the winner that coasts. Gain your pride thru your effort, not the results.

Answer 5

nicely the ingredient is my buddy... you're able to enable it out in case you had Emotional harm than (finding on what variety of harm that's say Anger or unhappiness) then play a interest or hear to track that suits your temper. working example watch a Violent action picture in case you have anger in you're unhappy watch a comedy to cheer you up Play a interest like Hellentry to enable your ability out on the enemy or play the sims to play around...hear to heavy steel...or Techno.. Gaining Confedince is stressful.... yet fixing Emotional harm is somthing else i dont think of Confedince is what you like

Answer 6

you have to find something that gives yourself motivation. something that you found for yourself. Like me I'm not confident with my looks if my hair is not done, but every one else thinks I look good regardless. But at the same time I still have to look good to myself.

Answer 7

Look at yourself in the mirror and make a list of all your good qualities.