I have no attraction to the same sex, hell i was having sex with my gf and i felt turned on but i feel like i am gay, now i use to take anti depressents so i am coming off those and its started just before coming off them, could it be because i have a low sex drive at the moment?
also is this true?
# Gay: completely turned off by the opposite sex.
# Straight: completely turned off by the same sex.
# Bisexual: equally turned on by both sexes.
2007-02-19 10:47:31 · 13 answers · asked by omgitsamonster 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My dear friend,
You are suffering from severe rejection. Rejection is a three-headed monster. Along with being rejected, comes self-rejection, and the fear of being rejected. Most likely you are a person who did not have proper family bonding. Dad wasn't there, mom was too busy,visa versa, or both.
If you have been sexually abused, this can alo cause this confusion.
You said you were on anti-depressants. These medications can also effect sex drive. I'm more concerned with the fact that you were on the medication. You are depressed because you feel powerless, perhaps you've always felt this way from a child.
Depression is often repressed anger.
Suggestion:
Start a prayer journal. In this journal start writing down all the names of people who have hurt you, and that you need to forgive. This may include yourself, and God. Some people are blaming God for something He was not resposible for. Fogiveness is ALWAYS the first step to emotional and spiritual freedom. I had to forgive. I was raped three times by the age of 17, the first at 14, produced a child. I learned to forgive my abusers when I realized, hurting people, hurt people.
I also accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord, meaning master of my life. Master meant I would now follow His teachings, over whatever else my "toxic emotions", poison, wanted me to do.
Today my pain has become my passion, that has propelled me into purpose. What evil meant to harm me, is now turned around and being used to help thousands of other people. I can relate to abuse. Today, I travel as a missionary with GREAT COMPASSION for the hurting!
My friend, before you can give love to someone else, you have to have it inside of you to give. Jesus (who I call God) loves others through us. We must first learn how to love from God who is "LOVE". Then we can ourselves, then others. God will teach you how to love my friend! Let Him!! Read John chapters 1, 2, and 3 in th "Holy Bible". There are many versions that make reading a lot easier today. May I suggest a student bible. TBN network is also an awesome TV program. www.TBN.org
You are SPECIAL, and deserve the best!!!
On one page of your journal, write this question as a short prayer.
"Dear Heavenly Father",
Why did you create me? Please reveal my purpose here on this earth. There is a special treasure inside of me, given by you. Please Jesus, help me discover what it is."
As you pray this simple prayer, God will answer you. Just write the answers as you begin to feel them inside you. At this point you may feel very broken, and cry. This is good cleansing. Now is the perfect time to say "Jesus, I forgive all those who have hurt me. Please Jesus, as I have forgiven, now please forgive me of all my sins. I accept you as Lord of my life. Give me a new mind to get rid of "stinking thinking". "
Forgive! Let it go! Choose to be better, not bitter! Besides, unforgiveness keeps you in bondage to the other person. In a sense they are controlling your life. Why give so much power to someone else? It's your life!! Shake it off, and CHOOSE to be happy!!
I CONGRATUALTE YOU ON YOUR FREEDOM!! I SAY THIS BY FAITH!!! YOU CAN DO IT!! YOU'RE WORTH IT!! YOUR GREATEST BATTLEFIELD IS IN YOUR MIND!!
A GREAT BOOK - "BATTLEFIELD OF THE MIND", BY JOYCE MEYERS.
FIND YOUR PURPOSE AND SOOOOOOAAAARRR! I'll be praying for your success!!
2007-02-19 11:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person has any sexual attraction to both sexes, then they are bisexual or bi-curious. What you said about bisexuals isn’t always the case. I have spoken to a lot of them and they have different levels of attractions (not 50/50). Some of them are a lot more attracted to men and others are a lot more attracted to women.
No one can get into someone else’s head and feel how they are feeling. I’m gay and I’m totally dead when it comes to the female body (in fact that kind of sex disgusts me). I also know a lot of straight guys who say they’re disgusted at the thought of gay sex. My guess would be that you have some kind of bi-curious feelings, but you don’t have to act on it. If you didn’t have these feelings before they could go away. On the other hand something might happen that really shocks you. It could be just something simple like shaking someone hand and you get a rush of feelings that you know a straight guy wouldn’t get. I guess time will tell, but don’t let things get your down. You can’t control your feelings, but you can control what actions you take.
2007-02-19 11:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by pissed off with abuse, goodbye! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality if FAR MORE FLUID THAN JUST 3 CATEGORIES!
For some people you can "feel" one thing or another and perhaps never feel them again. Then for others, they may persist for months or even years and your sexuality changes. It just doesn't WORK THAT WAY FOR 98% OF US, but then again, some people are just different! Not everything or everyone is set in stone!
PS Its definately not because you have have a low sex drive, but it could be because you have a high serotonin level.
2007-02-19 11:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be many things kiddo....
It's perfectly normal for either orientation to go through periods of fantasy contrary to their orientation (that doesn't sound like what you're going through but it could be similar in terms of thinking that you are gay etc).
On the other hand you might want to look into some of the Kinsey studies information that places sexuality along a continuum instead of polar opposites and one in the center.
I hope that your anti depressants helped,
Cheers,
2007-02-19 10:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Gene M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no sexual attraction to the same sex, you aren't gay, regardless of whether or not you're having sex with a person of the opposite sex.
Straight = sexually attracted to members of the opposite sex
Gay = sexually attracted to members of the same sex
Bisexual = sexually attracted to members of both sexes
Celibate = not having sex, even if attracted to someone
Mature = able to appreciate the attractiveness of any person without equating it to sexual attraction
2007-02-19 10:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by gelfling 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all being gay is ok Then after you know that, you should convince yourself that you are gay/not gay by watching a homosexual kissing scene or even a porn...if you think that you do not see yourself doing that in the near future, then you are not homosexual
2016-05-24 17:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You set up the account in September last, used it three times and are down to 70 points?
What's wrong with this picture.
2007-02-19 10:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you say that you're turned on by your gf and you still are having feelings toward the same sex, you could be bi. I am..it's pretty rockin! lol. =)
2007-02-19 10:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by All!c@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you start getting attracted to men, you do not have to worry. If you are, there is nothing wrong with you.
2007-02-19 11:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes,why do you keep thinking your gay,and the last three things are true
2007-02-19 10:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋