2007-02-19 10:30:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I have a 2 1/2 year old and a four month old. You just got to teach your oldest to share his time with you. It's hard but it will get easier. trust me. good Luck!
2007-02-19 10:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tara Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a two year old (turned two Jan 12th) and just had a baby on February 2nd. So far, my two year old has adjusted great. she loves her baby sister and wants to hold her every once in a while but other than that she doesnt pay much attention to her. She has been an easy child since she was born and so far has remained her normal self. My newborn is a good baby so far too. I guess i am lucky. Getting out is a lot more difficult however. It takes me twice as long to go anywhere and getting ready is a long process. We go a lot b/c my daughter is involved in a quite a bit of activities, so i have found myself a lot more tired lately trying to meet both the demands of my toddler and my newborn. It has been great though and worth every minute of exhaustion. Dont worry too much, you will adjust just fine.
2007-02-19 11:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by mommyto2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be suprised at how helpful the older on will be. My daughter was 2 and a half when I brought home our second baby girl. She helped feed her and would go get me diapers and wipes. She would gently rock the babys bassinet for us. Come to think of it I dont know what I would have done without her!!! She still help so much they play together she does as much as I will allow her to do. The key is to allow your child to hold and cuddle the baby to they need to be shown how to be gentle with the little one. If they dont hold and get to touch the baby thats when it leads to them being to rough and hurting them. Dont worry about a thing in a week or two you will be used to having both of them around and I am sure that the oldest will be more than happy to help mommy take care of the new baby. Always try to set aside a little cuddle time for the oldest because they need one on one time with you to. Also when people came over to see the new baby ask them to speak to the oldest first so they dont feel left out that really helps ward off ant jelousy!! Good Luck!!
2007-02-19 10:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Lindy O...I have a 4yr old, and a 6 month old..I have found that as hard as it may be, wake your oldest up at 6- 6:30am, feed him/her breakfast and then let them watch Sesame Street, and maybe play or color with him/her until your baby wakes up.You have GOT to make time for your oldest, so they don't feel neglected.9am, NAP TIME!! You can then clean, start laundry and maybe even catch a cat nap yourself.Then do lunch, and organize an activity for you and the oldest and hold the baby, or bring his/her stroller/car seat/walker/whatever the case may be to the same area you and the oldest are.That way, the oldest will feel like you aren't favoring the baby, and when the baby gets bigger, he/she will be accustomed to "sharing" MOMMY
2007-02-19 10:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by sheila a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 yr old, 4yr, 3yr and a 10 month old. Routines are important but so is making sure to spend time w/ each child....3yr olds are very ego centered so any attention given to someone else is some they aren't getting. I recommend including them in helping w/ the baby like picking the outfit of the day, putting pacifier in baby's mouth when he/she cries, reading to the older child while baby naps or nurses or maybe sit and color w/him/her. What's important is that the child learn that baby isn't someone to compete against for love and attention, but a future ally in a diaper!LOL
2007-02-19 10:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Heavenly Advocate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my oldest daughter was 2 years old I gave birth to twins - the best advice I have is take all the help you can get. A lot of times people will say let me know if there's anything I can do to help - don't be shy, ask for help.
2007-02-19 16:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good you have your fiance most don't speaking for myself i had a 3 yr old and a newborn baby and it was hard but my son loved his little sister so much he didn't give me hell but you need to talk to your stepson and tell him he's going to have another sibling that's smaller than him and he's going to have to help and be big brother they like it when they think that they're helping even if all they do is get in the way but you really wont know how its going to be untill the baby gets there but the best of luck to you and your new family !!!
2016-05-24 17:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3yo, a 2yo and I'm 36 weeks along with a 3rd. I would recommend trying to get a routine down as soon as possible. My first was 16 months old when I had the second. It wasn't difficult for me even though everyone said it would be. Routine worked for us.
2007-02-19 10:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the EXACT same situation! I have a 3 year old daughter and 29 weeks along with my second! If you find out some good tips let me know plz! I am all ears! All I can say is LOTS of patience. Good luck.
2007-02-19 10:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have a 5 year old a 2 year old and a 4 month old. i can tell you the bet piece of advice i got was to create a routine and stick with it, it makes everyones day easier
2007-02-19 10:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lindy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋