I have had this best friend for 3 years and we have been basically insepertable. But lately everything had changed. i try not to be jelious but i cant help it because she is always hanging out with this new girl. They will invite me over and they will not include me. She basically stopped hanging out with me and everytime i want to get together with her she goes can i invite her to? It gets me so upset im like can we seriously have time alone or what? Anyways the two girls have so much in common like they both dont live with their dads and they like to smoke and i live with my dad and i dont smoke. She always acts rude to me now and ignores me like im not there. And ive been the best of frend to her so i dont kno what i did rong. she had all this stuff on her myspace about me but now she took it out and put the other gurl in and i am so confused now she picks fights with me and everytime i tell her that i seem like were drifting apart she just hangs out with the other gurl more.
2007-02-19 10:06:52 · 8 answers · asked by confused girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had this experiance when I was younger. I had a few friends then they dumped me. It really hurts. You feel as if your world is falling apart. You will be okay. And you did nothin wrong.
GIRLS ARE TRICKY you should know this as you are one. they have this sayin. Put 10 girls in a room togther for the weekend and by the end they are all enemys.. put 10 guys in that same room they are best buddies..
Give your friends some space... Maybe the other girl will make her mad and she will come back to you.Or she will realize she needs you back in her life. Girls do this and I really dont know why..It must be the PMS and hormones. Try to make some new friends and move on... Its really nice to have friends but you will realize when you grow up they arnt that important. Be proud of yourself and Be a leader.. You already are you just dont see it yet.. Your friends smoke and you dont... YOU SHOULD BE SO PROUD of yourself . I am .... you know what to do. you can do it.
2007-02-19 12:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by luvtopaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all she has no right to treat you like that. I known that you feel jealous that she's with someone else, but you should find another friend who respects you, and don't be hung up on old ones, especially if they are being rude. Once she sees you with another person she'll realize how much of a jerk she's been, and how picking fights with you, and excluding you was the wrong thing to do. Its also good that you don't smoke that's not a good quality to find in a friend. And don't even look at her myspace, it doesn't matter, she is just being really rude, and she doesn't deserve a good friend like you, and you don't deserve a person like her. I know its going to be hard to find another friend after you've been friends with her for a long time, but you will feel better, and your new friends will include you in things. You don't deserve to be treated this way, and its her loss.
2007-02-19 18:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me. I had a friend who was my twin, we even dressed alike. Then she found a friend as short as her and other silly stuff and I was the odd man out. I was hurt at the beginning because I depended on her friendship. I felt alone. This went on for a while and I started comparing myself to other people around me. I was surprised and reassured that a lot of the others looked alone and unmatched. I took a risk and extended myself to a few of them to be a friend and give them the camaraderie my friend withdrew from me. I ended up with a circle of people to go places with and sit with at lunch. They were really great and if one left it didn't destroy me, there was always someone else to be nice to. It comes back to you when you do that.
Go look for people who seem to look like they feel the same way you do and do for them what you wish someone would do for you. Put them all on your myspace site. You never know how you will rescue someone and how you will be rewarded. You can't loose. You may even end up rescuing your old friend some day but I promise you won't be alone.
2007-02-19 18:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by AvatarX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this hurts. And it's not that you did anything wrong at all. This is just the way friendships go sometimes in life. So, try not to take it too seriously (yeah I know, easy for me to say). It's sad, but it's a great opportunity for you to do some different things and to make new friends. Your bf may return... you never know, but give her a bit of space for now. Don't get mad, just be there for whenever she might need you again. In the meantime make a few new friends (join a club, etc.)... heck maybe even make a boyfriend (lol). :-)
2007-02-19 18:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad and messed up! How old are yall?? I remember in school,that I had some friends who couldn't be friends with more than one person at a time. if i were you I would try not to let it get to me. For her,it's just somebody new. She's acting very immiture though. Find some new friends and let her come back to you. A true friend would not treat you like that and belive me,when you find a real friend,keep them-cuz their hard to come by! Good Luck!!
2007-02-19 19:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem. I'm just not calling her, because i know adventaully she'll call me and then just in a way make her feel bad like say oh i thought i was suppose to be your bestfriend? she does this to me like once and a while then she snaps out of it, just stay cool, hang out with your other friends.
2007-02-19 18:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by baba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alrighty...well i know yall were best friends but sometimes friends drift apart and its just fate. Try hanging out with someone else to get her off your mind. Just find better loyalerr friends
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2007-02-19 18:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by rawritskatex3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should just move on and I know that that can be hard but people change.
2007-02-19 18:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋