Hi everyone, My husband is turning 24 on Monday the Feb. 26 and I barely turned 20 on Jan.; I go to work and go to college and he only works at this moment, because of the 12 hour shift at work he wouldn't be able to handle work and school at the same time. Well to the point, he has been bugging me about wanting a baby, but i think we are not ready yet. I would like to finish college first and then have the baby, but he wants it. We have been married a little over a year already. What do you think? Should I or Should I just wait until i finish college next year? I will really appreciate your help, Thanks!
2007-02-19 10:00:26 · 12 answers · asked by pinkcari05 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You're smart to think of your career first. You need to be able to provide a good life for the child. It's very hard to have a child and then try to continue your education. I got married and had two children before I finished my degree. They are 4 and 5 years old now, and I am just now finishing my education. You are so young; you have plenty of years to have kids--waiting is never a bad idea unless your biological clock is ticking--and you have a long way to go before that happens.
Don't let your husband push you into something so huge. This is not a give-in type of thing--this is something that's going to change your life, and you need to be as prepared for it as possible.
2007-02-19 10:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your situation. My husband has been ready for a baby for the past 3 years. I am 27 and finally to the point where I want to start a family. For a long time I wasn't ready because I wanted to focus on my career. You are very young yet, and there is plenty of time for you and your husband to have a family. It seems like finishing college is the best thing to do. Once you have kids, there won't be a lot of "me" time for a long time after. It's best for you to pursue your goals and dreams now while your young and right in the middle of college. Tell your husband that you want to at least be able to legally have a drink at a bar with him before you have a baby with him! Oh, and if you have any doubt or question in your mind, then it's a good sign that you may not be totally ready to unselfishly devote all of your time, patience, energy, money, and whole life to a baby.
Take care of your own needs and wants for now, you're young and there is plenty of time for a baby in the future. Good luck!
2007-02-19 18:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by Luckyprincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you already know that having a baby is a totally life changing event. It is something that both you and your husband need to be ready for. If you feel that you want to finish college (which would provide a better future for you new baby and family) then you should sit down and tell your husband that you would love to have a family with him and that you are looking forward to it but you fell like you should wait at least until you finish school. Good Luck
2007-02-19 19:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Adams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The very best thing to do is have a serious talk with him and be HONEST. Let him know that you want to have a baby but you feel it would be a whole lot better for you to finish school before having a baby. Once you have a baby it will be a whole lot harder to go to school. It might just be that he feels as though you don't want to have a baby. IT might help if he knows that you do but you just want to wait a year to finish schooling.
2007-02-19 18:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by tweety 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until I was done college if I were you. You only have 1 year left, and if you don't have your whole heart into wanting this baby, you may end up resent it and your husband in the future if your career doesn't turn out the way you wanted it to.
If you don't feel ready, do what you can to prevent it. He shouldn't be pressuring you into having one at this point if you don't feel up to it.
2007-02-19 18:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by imcalledlisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush anything.if you want t o finnish school, then do it. I had a little boy when I was 19 & still haven't got time to go back to school.You have plenty of time to worry about having kids after you finish school.Keep in mind that the prices of living keep going up,with out a good education & job,it will be very hard to raise a kid.I know this from expirence,I'm not lecturing like our parents always did,but take you time,finish school.
2007-02-19 18:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkwomn_jsi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to finish school and get money saved before you have a baby. It is a lot of money to raise a child and more work then you think. I had kids at a young age and it was very hard on me. Now we don't live easy and we never have enough money
2007-02-19 18:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should put it off for awhile if you are still in school. My daughter and her husband are both full time students and have two little girls. It is a zoo around their place...no time to study, homework to get done, housework, dishes, playtime...it's a stressful time, but if you have the option of waiting until you're done with school, I think you'd enjoy your children more.
2007-02-19 18:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Car 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him u arent ready and u want to finish school first and when u r finished u mite b ready he should understand
2007-02-19 18:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not up to me. But I think that you should start trying to get pregnant know, and then if you do get pregnant then ok. If you don't then it is in your favor! But either way good luck
2007-02-19 18:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by sheridane95 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋