Could I be Gay, is this normal ...Help!??

Question

I have a really close friend, we known each other for along time. I feel like I'm attracted to her. This may seem odd but it's the truth, so if you are ready to be grossed out don't response unless you had the same experience or feelings, okay!? I think it is her fault though, like a guy would, she was touchy feely. We never kissed, but close to, but stopped her. I didn't want to start some thing, then again I did. I'm christian and ashamed. We never said anything about it, and others have notice that she is really acts like a guy or my boyfriend, hangs her arm around me and stuff like that. I never dated but have liked guys a lot, kinda felt I wished I had a boyfriend but knew my dad wouldn't want me to date guys or be gay. This thing was going on for two years or so, now she stopped, she saids she likes guys from a band. I feel kinda bad, like I kinda felt we liked each other. We do everything together and I feel like I still have a connection, but not as strong. Is this normal?

Answer 1

Yes it's normal temptation but it also gay and wrong! As a Christian you must resist these perversions because that's what they are. God did not mean for you to be with another woman despite it's popularity in an increasingly anti-Christian world.

You'll love yourself all the more for making the right decision once you are hapilly maried with your husband.

Answer 2

What is in your heart? Do you feel inside that you want to have sex with this person? I will admit that I don't believe God meant for women and women and men and men to be together that way
and no I haven't had the experience, but if I can be of some help for you to figure this out, then that's what I will do. I have a dear friend - a female and I'm female - that I have known since I was 9 - almost 50 yrs. As children we experimented a little but I believe that to be the norm. Could it be that you just care for this person as you would a brother or sister that you are mistakenly thinking it's something else? I 've heard of some people likeing both men and women and maybe that is the case with you but please if you are a believer in God, ask him to help you solve this delimma you have found yourself to be in. If you feel this to be wrong, then back away, if you are agonizing over it, then I think you already know your answer.

Answer 3

You may probably both be bisexual but won't allow yourselves to act on it because of your religion. You have a choice, either suppress your sexual desires because of a religious belief and risk living a life in denial, or talk to her and see if what you both feel is a sexual romantic attraction, or just a natural human to human freindship.

Be warned though that you may be confusing a simply close bond, with a romantic attraction. She may just be a great friend to you in a sisterly way, and not a sexual way. Because you don't have a boyfriend, and never have, you desire to be touched, hugged, kissed, and shown real physical effection and when you don't have that, people tend to get it from somewhere in some way regardless. So maybe your confusing that desire with the actual desire to be with specifically a woman.

Good luck. And don't let religious folks brainwash you into being straight, but at the same time, don't let gay/bisexual culture brainwash you into being les/bi. YOU find out what you are using your own mind. It sounds more to me like you are straight, but confused and over thinking yourself into believing your something that your not.

And the person who gave me thumbs down must then either be a religious person who thinks any opened minded talk is evil, or a gay person who thinks the idea of being straight but confused is impossible. Either ways it's ignorant.

Answer 4

Forget about labels, creeds, beliefs, conditions, etc. God is Love. The God that you were taught about is a projection of people's ego thought systems which is the OPPOSITE of love. God's love is unconditional. And our silly, ego-based, human categorizations of sexual orientation are a slap in the face to this unconditional love and its limitless expression. It takes different forms and in different attractions. If you let the guilt go and let the conditions go and seek only to treat humans with respect and love, you'll find the right answer. Every other answer that tells you what to do or what not to do is silly... Find out for yourself after you've removed the artificial guilt.

Answer 5

She likes you and yes she is bisexual it doesnt take someone to be gay to know that. SHe likes boys and girls. And yes that is possible i am straigt all the way and i do not like girls and yes i am a girl. I like guys. I think that you might be in the stage of experimental meaning your not sure if you like her like in that way but then your not sure if you dont. I suggest just letting life do its part. experience learn live and grow thats my motto. But always follow your intuition and your heart and do what you feel is right.

Answer 6

Lady this is your BEST FRIEND ! not your lover - so your feelings are normal- and stop thinking about being Gay - yuk- if your a true christian then you will never be gay- Yalll are acting just like 2 best friends should act- so dont worry be happy

Answer 7

Remember and never forget this fact:

EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD IS NORMAL UNLESS IT HURTS OTHER PEOPLE

What you did or felt didn't hurt anyone, so it was perfectly normal. By the way, you can be both Christian and gay - there is no contradiction here.

Answer 8

no your not gay but curisous and you've known this person for along time and that is how feelings grow towards a person. If you try and make out with her and don't like it then you will know.

Answer 9

Its normal. A lot of guys are ashamed to admit feelings, but most guys develope attachments to other guys and they get confused, because of what the bible or adults say. the truth is you will develope feelings for other but they will not be sexual. sexual feelings are extremely hard to generate (unless your a nympho).

Answer 10

There is nothing normal about homosexuality, no matter how much a small portion of the population insists to the point of hysteria. That being said you're not the first person to ever have these feelings. Many teens go through a stage of uncertainty when it comes to attraction. Many of them are misled into believing the gay propaganda that it's normal and natural and that you're born that way. Don't believe the lies.

What matters is how you choose to act on the feelings you have. Much like an adulterer who has feelings toward another woman, someone with homosexual feelings has a choice. You can choose to give in to your feelings or you can choose to resist knowing there are better things out there (like a heterosexual relationship). If we always gave in to our feelings and our base desires we would consistently end up in some kind of trouble or another. This is why we have discernment, to help us avoid making bad decisions. Sometimes it's easier to make a wrong choice than a right one but there is no mistaking this: both choices have consequences (many times, life-long consequences). While it may be easier to give in to our feelings even if we know better, oftentimes those kinds of choices end up with tragic consequences.

We sometimes can't control our feelings but we can always control our actions. The articles below are an excellent resource when dealing with homosexuality; I hope they help :)

http://www.probe.org/faith-and-sexuality/homosexuality/helping-teens-understand-homosexuality.html

http://www.probe.org/content/view/378/47/

http://www.probe.org/faith-and-sexuality/homosexuality/same-sex-marriage-a-facade-of-normalcy.html