i have always been a kind and giving person, and i do not expect much in return, i always get enjoyment from the little things and i maintain an extrememly positive attitude, i am the most helpful person at work, but it seems lately that people have been treating me as though they are taking advantage of me, is it possible to be too helpful and nice, are most people in the world selfish and not willing to help others?
2007-02-19 09:28:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes, it's called being a doormat. people see that you have some sort of insecurity and it affects your ability to say no, so they walk all over you. Get therapy and help.
2007-02-19 09:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am i being too nice? Yes. I have always had the same problem.
i have always been a kind and giving person, and i do not expect much in return. I'm the same way. i maintain an extrememly positive attitude. I always try to, do that, too. i am the most helpful person at work, but it seems lately that people have been treating me as though they are taking advantage of me. They likely are. is it possible to be too helpful and nice, are most people in the world selfish and not willing to help others? Yes, on both accounts. Well, it's not exactly most but close to it. Yea, Fairy, (cute nick name. What's the history behind it?) you and I have something in common. Try to cut back on how much you help. Also try asking for help at work, once and awhile, see what effect that has. UNless a co worker really needs help with a project that's very imporant and has a close approaching deadline, you shouldn't have to help that co worker. But in the situation in which that is the case, I think he/she, if smart and moral will help you, in return. That's sort of, part of what we smart, nice people expect from others. Oh well, let me know how this scenario turns out.
2007-02-19 09:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as being "too nice." The question is more a matter of HOW are you being nice? There IS such thing as being taken advantage of, and you have to draw the line somewhere. By setting boundaries, you ARE actually being nice. You are helping people learn how to do their own work. You are teaching them how to respect people and work as a team.
If you feel like people at work are taking advantage of you, I suggest sitting down with your supervisor and discussing it. Find out what is expected of you, and exceed those expectations when possible... but not if it means doing someone else's work for them. Good luck!
2007-02-19 09:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People seem to be more "on edge" than ever! My personal opinion is that it's the terrorism. It has made us All insecure and quick-tempered. Give people the benefit of the doubt and if you are not sure, just ask nicely! You'll Find Out Then!! Good Luck! @8-)
2007-02-19 10:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but ....yes people are getting selfish & ya you might be a little to nice. I used to help alot of friends move (I had a big truck) but when it came time for me to move everyone had stuff to do.This happend more than once.
I also noticed the more poeple took advantage of me the meaner I got. One thing about being nice is you'll know who your true friends are because they are the ones that will help when you need it.
2007-02-19 10:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by dimebag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People wont respect you for being nice. They will respect you if you act appropriately to situations. I wouldn't like a brown nosing backbreaking friend. I appreciate constructive criticism. Being positive is not always positive. Praising a mean person though "praising" being a positive act shouldn't be the appropriate reaction.
If you are always nice people will take you for a sucker and a fisher for confidence. Go for the you scratch my back I scratch yours if you don't I don't reciprocal altruism type thing.
2007-02-19 09:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by obscure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that happens to me. you just have to know when to draw the line. sometimes being generous is good but other times it can lead to people taking advantage of you. it's hard to know when, but you'll get the hang of it.
2007-02-19 09:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by rt1290 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that you think you are being taking advantage and want some appreciation for being nice and friendly. you are disappointed that you haven't received the response you desired.
2007-02-19 09:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to learn to say NO when you don't want o can't do something.
2007-02-23 08:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by united we stand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋