What should i do if my best friend is replacing me with a new friend?

Question

My best friend and i have been close for 3 years basically best of friends. then recently there is another girl who we have both been friends with in the past who started hanging out with her all the time. My best friend is rude to me and picks at fights with me so she has an excuse to not hang out with me. I told her how i was feeling left out and she said o no dont worry your not being replaced but then she just would try to hang out with her more and through it in my face and try to make me feel bad. Now they hang out everyday and im never talking on the phone with her or hanging out with her. She had all this stuff about me on her myspace and she changed it and put the other girls name. It makes me feel horrible because i feel like i dont have anyone to talk to even though i have so many more close friends. What should i do?

Answer 1

That sucks alot but it sounds like she is not worth it. You have a few options,

Try to be friend with this new girl, I have like 5 best friends and we all hang out TOGETHER, there are no two who like eachother more. Try to make it a "Threesome" of friends, rather than a pair.

Or, realize this girl is not worth the trouble and move on. People never know what they have until it is gone, so stop calling her talking to her etc. Essentially ignore her, she will come back. And if she doesn't, she was not worth it.

Those are my thought hope they help... and good luck!

Answer 2

Forget all about her for a while. Hang out with your other close friends. Are you sure the third party is not telling her lies about you that make your bf mad at you for no reason?

I say put some distance btwn you 2. If she were really a friend she would not do these things to you. I'm 26 and have gone through 6 bf. Not intentionally, but sometimes people grow aprart. It's life, unfortunately. Maybe she is jealous of you?

Answer 3

Let her go. There are some friendships that have an user by date. It looks like yours has expired. No matter, there are other people out there whom you can befriend. Only take it easy for a while. You could give yourself some time for solitude. Take stock of your life, decide which direction you want to take. We humans tend to avoid pain of any kind and we forget there are lessons to be learned including the fact that you are a worthy human being, worthy of love and true friendship.
So, to be worthy you must prove it firstly to yourself.
A worthy person is not clingy, or needy or spiteful.
If all else fails, you could concentrate in your studies as the most important task in your life now. You could also remember that if you take care of today, tomorrow will take care of itself.
Best wishes for your future.

Answer 4

the same thing is kind of happening with me. ive known my best friend my whole life. but theres this girl and when ever its the 3 of use, kelly seems to hang with her more than me. now the 3 of us are going to the Fall Out Boy concert and i dont want to be left out. all i came tell you is that maybe this girl isnt a good friend. im not saying get rid of your best friend, just find another friend to hang with and show your friend that you dont need her all the time.

Answer 5

Friendships change over time, especially when we are young.

My advice is to confide and hang out more with your other close friends. (That's one reason we have close and casual friends -- to draw from when someone who supposedly was our best friend moves on.)

Another thing that I've found helpful when this type of thing happens is to rely on my family more -- at least for a while.

The best of luck to you. I am sure things will work out for you. And do not think those of us who answer on here don't know what you are going through -- we do.

Answer 6

Frankly there are too many girls out here or online who are looking for friends rather then chase girls who dont want to be friends.Shes acting childish,immature,pricey.Forget her get yourself some new friends act like you dont care trust me i know what im talking about.All my friends are either who i met in everyday life or online none of them are school or college friends since i found them the way this girl is acting so i made new friends with girls i met in everyday life or online.So ive got so many friends now.

Answer 7

I say let it be for the time. Don't show her you are upset about it. Star looking for new friends and people to hang out.

Its her lost not yours. By pushing you to the side she has shown you that she is really not a true friend. She will realize sooner or later that she lost a good friend. I know its hard but there are lots of people out there that will be truly good friends.

Answer 8

To make a long story short...friends come and go. It will happen all your life. Very few people have friends "forever" like you see on television and in movies. No worries, just try to hang out with someone else. :)

Answer 9

I wouldn't consider it losing a friend from the sound of things. If she were trully your friend she wouldn't have posted those things about you. People change for whatever reason it's just nature, sometimes they needed the change not you. Don't feel bad be social meet new people. You never know what might happen. You might find a new friend or even a new relationship.

Answer 10

charge it to the brain and not the heart. Sometimes people just outgrow each other. If she did that to you then just count it as a blessing in disguise and mark that a learning experience. You are now probably better off without her anyway.

Girls rule 1# Is to never ever let them see you sweat!!!
keep your chin up and a big smile (that always hurts them the most)