I recently found out that one of my grade school best friends passed away this year. He was only 23 a year older than me. I hadn't seen him in 13 years but I still have my memories.
I've tried talking to others about it but it doesn't work, I've used music like I have in the past but all that does is bring back more memories & makes them even stronger!
What do you do or suggest?
2007-02-19 09:00:10 · 8 answers · asked by Davey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Childhood friendships are sometimes our closest friendships we will make in life.
My suggestions:
1. Write a letter to his family.
2. Write a letter to your friend and read it out loud as if you were reading it to him.
3. Remember a special activity that you two enjoyed together and do it again with another friend or family member
4. Buy or even make something that reminds you of your friend.
5. Talk about him with your own family members, current friends, or a clergy person or counselor if the need should arise.
It is perfectly normal to grieve about such a person, even though you have not been around him for a while.
Hold on to your memories of this person. You will meet again.
Good book:
http://www.amazon.com/When-Friend-Dies-Grieving-Healing/dp/0915793660
Good luck to you now.
2007-02-19 09:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was 15 my two best friends disappeared off the face of the earth and haven't been seen since and that is over 10 years ago now, but the only advise i can give is that saying goodbye at his grave or my case it was a memorial statue and then the rest of the sorrow will fade with time. Today my friends that went are just happy memories of the time we had.
2007-02-19 09:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Guðni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny thing memories they stick with you. I guess that's why their called memories. I too lost my best friend but a little differently. He vanished off the face of this planet. Nobody knows where he is. Family friends nobody. I think of him often and it hurts but you just carry on. What else can we do? Life goes on my friend. Try to make the best of it. Hope this helped. Good Luck.
2007-02-19 09:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend was murdered last year.we had been close friends for appr. 15 years. the news of her death was devasting. i immediatly starting seeing a shrink to help me sort it all out. i was told not to remember the death and the pain associated with it but remember the good silly times you had over the course of the 15 year friendship. deal with the positive not the negative. it seems like basic advice but it does help.
2007-02-19 09:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by clever1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you will always have him in your heart but when u get those memories dont try to keep them away because those will stick around for a while but while u have those memories hold on to them forever
ps: good luck
2007-02-19 09:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by shelly! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray for God to heal your heart and give you peace.
I know that your friend even though he died at a young age is in a better place right now where he his happy and does not feel any pain.
My prayers are with you...
2007-02-19 09:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by Christina L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw on your memories, if you have pictures, put them in a scrap book. or you can write him a letter, explaining how you feel about him, and remember he is at peace, no pain, no sorrow. and that should make you feel good!
2007-02-19 09:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new best friens then just hold onto the good memories you had with them
2007-02-19 09:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋