hurts your feelings, do you tell them or are you the type to let it fester?
2007-02-19 08:42:08 · 13 answers · asked by JustMe 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'd tell them, maybe they just don't realize how much you care. Then the best way is let the truth be known, if they understand they'd care for you as much. If they don't, let it go.
2007-02-19 08:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do tell them. You have to do it when you are calm, cool & collective though. Don't discuss it when you are upset, period. It won't be a good talk if u do. Me, I am the type to hold alot of s*** in. It's not good I know. That's just me. But when I'm ready to talk about it, I do so in a manner that is not to intimidate that person. There is no need to be loud about it. Talk about it like the adults that you are. Communication is very underrated. However, when a persons feelings get hurt, you get protective of them. More now than ever before because you didn't expect that person to do or say whatever he/she did or said.
2007-02-19 17:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Just asking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would prefer to tell them as they may not have realized that they have hurt me. I feel that if I let it fester resentment would then set in and I would be afraid of loosing that persons friendship and company.However I would tell them in a sensative manner and try not to come across as aggressive or argumentative.
2007-02-19 16:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by dollybird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to tell them. If you don't tell them, they don't know and will likely continue whatever they did to hurt you. Also, if you let it fester, your anger will build up until you go postal over something trivial...and that could threaten to end the relationship.
2007-02-19 16:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them. But not in an attacking way. Just let them know you're hurt and why, so that if it was an accident or unintentional, they'll be aware in the future.
2007-02-19 16:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let it fester, think it over and tell them without any resentment.
2007-02-19 16:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by eric v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would tell them. if you hold it in for too long, its just gonna get to you more. And you might end up hurting them trying to get them back for hurting you and two wrongs dont make a right. so i would let them know exactly how i feel.
2007-02-19 16:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by miss juicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more of the type that let it bottle up and then explode when I've had enough but I have tried letting them no right away and it works well; the persons hears how you feel and they let you know how they felt about doing that.
2007-02-19 16:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Steff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im the type to hold it in. Thats something I need to work on, because I believe if someone hurts your feelings you should tell them right away how you feel so they wont walk over you.
2007-02-19 16:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I tell them as soon as it happens. There's no reason harboring ill feelings, it's best to get it all out on the table as soon as possible.
2007-02-19 16:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by ajd1bmf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋