I've not spoken to my close female friend for 3 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.
She's txt bck:i really do not have the energy to keep explaining things to you.I will be civil but i'm afraid i feel the close friendship is lost...........
We MET ON FRIDAY at a friends party,we spoke a lot,but she still looked hurt+uncomfortable at times.
I apologised for hurting her i.e. wanting no contact - she snaped bck saying YOU NEVER HURT ME! GOOD/BAD RESPONSE??
I asked her if she'll join us on our group roadtrips - she said YES! - A POSITIVE SIGN OF FRIENDSHIP RESTARTING???
As she left I said that hopefully/possibly see you in a few months -she replied I'll see you at the roadtrip - we said bye and she gave me a tight hug - ANOTHER POSITIVE SIGN???
She needed a hug from my mate as it was too much for her to take in!
IS THE FRIENDSHIP REALLY LOST???Why she hurt???
2007-02-19 08:19:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is being defensive. I think she may be coming off strong to make sure you don't have any "hope" of something happening between you two. I don't think the friendship is lost but make sure she knows you just want the friendship and aren't hanging in for something else.
2007-02-19 08:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never hurt me - bad response. She is denying that you ever had the power to hurt her. Defensive.
Her feelings for you cannot be turned off and on in an instant. You have hurt her and she gave you a poke back. You cannot have it both ways perhaps. A friendship where there is no hope of anything more would be selfish on your part and agony on hers. Let her go.
2007-02-19 16:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Joan H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not totally lost, she was hurt because you were pushing her away, you should not have done that continue to talk to her you are not going to get her out of your system by avoiding her
2007-02-19 16:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Alise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's hurt because she wants to be with you!!
2007-02-19 16:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by flacodf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋