My family is very controlling and always seems to know "what is best" for my seven year old son. They just come and take him away from the house while I am gone. I never know when he is coming back or anything. I live with my boyfriend and am nine weeks pregnant with our baby and this just needs to stop. They say that he is not able to watch my son while I am gone and just take him away. What can I do to end this control?
2007-02-19 08:08:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Thank you for your kind responses. You guys are giving me the strength I need to do this. Not that I needed help, but I've learned that a little support can go a long way. Thank you, you do not know how much this means to me. I am 34 years old and I feel sometimes like I'm losing my mind trying to keep the peace. I realized that I am allowing this to happen and I now see the need to just take action. My boyfriend is a really good guy and they like him (so that they can keep tabs on me)... yeah, go figure...
2007-02-19 09:11:38 · update #1
You need to get more control on your life. It might be best if you move far away.
My only concern is that your family's concerns about your boyfriend are legit. Still your family has no right to over ride you as the parental authority in your own home and your children.
Other than that your family has NO RIGHT to take your child with out your permission and it is certainly NOT RIGHT they do not bring him home.
Your child is getting attached to your family members and this will cause you sever problems as he gets older if you don't get this stopped now.
Your child sees your family disrespecting you.
Children act out what is portrayed before them.
If your family gives you money or things then you are inviting them into having say in your life. So do not take money or any help from your family.
2007-02-19 08:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~Raspberry Tea~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate to say this, but it is beyond control, to illegal. Unfortunately, many families "think" they have the right to do what they think is best for a child. You can try telling them flat out, but talk is cheap, if they are used to pushing you around. It needs to be reported to the police. You can also get a restraining order, prohibiting them from coming to your home.
Understand, they will very likely try to retaliate, either by reporting you to cps for possible neglect/ abuse, or by trying to file a lawsuit to take custody, on grounds that you are an unfit parent. It would be far better if they can get it through their thick skull that you are NOT going to allow this anymore. Insure that nothing is going on that could be misinterpreted, ie alcohol, not feeding, etc.
Unfortunately, I know from experience that many "protective" families are irrational. And they are normally the ones who will put a guilt trip on YOU, to evade their own issues.
2007-02-20 07:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by wendy c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move and not tell them where you went. It's your child not theirs. They should just be taking him. And why isn't your boyfriend doing anything when they come to take your son? I would call the police if anyone took my son while I was gone.
2007-02-19 16:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by TheRaven_poe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hire a lawyer and get a restraining order against them. They have no right to take your son without your express permission on every occasion.
2007-02-19 16:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, take control of your child. They do not dictate anything unless you let them. If you leave, and you leave your child in the care of your BF, they cannot override that decision. But, if you are not going to put your foot down, then they will not stop.
Next time you leave your son with the BF, if they show up, tell him not to let them in. If they do not leave, he should contace law enforcement.
2007-02-19 16:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try the sites below, make sure to change the location/state in which you reside. Hope this helps.
2007-02-19 16:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by citronge69 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋