PLZ HELP ME MY SEX LIFE WITH MY WIFE IS DRAMATICLLY FALLING
2007-02-19 07:50:28 · 29 answers · asked by KING GEORGE VI 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
cut your hands off
2007-02-19 07:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
Tips:
1. You could try to not fantasize which usually occurs with masterbation (such as porn videos, mags, or even reliving a sexual encounter with your wife).
2. You could try replacing it with something that you find more acceptable (for example: when you get the urge to masterbate: excersize or clean something..its not fun but you'll put your energy into something else).
3.You could try thinking about something that will totally turn you off and gross you out.
4. Try taking a Cold shower
5. Keep very busy so you have no time to do it.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. Its a natural thing to have a sex drive. I understand different religions and some family systems may have values that masterbation is wrong. For that reason, I gave you the tips above. You would be suprised although how many married couples have sex and also still masterbate.
If your sex life is falling with your wife, don't just leave it up to chance. Talk to your wife about it..and not in a negative way, keep it positive. For example: Ask her what would please her more in bed? Talk to her and ask her about her wants and needs.
I also recommend talking to a sex therapist with your wife or alone (which ever you are more comfortable with). With a sex therapist you won't have to worry about talking about topics like this, because it is the exact kind of thing they talk to their clients about everyday. Anyhow, a sex therapist should be able to help you achieve what you want to achieve in this situation. They might be able to give suggestions on stuff that will help with your sex life with your wife. Its definatly worth a try, and you have a whole lot you can possibly gain from it.
2007-02-21 00:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Masturbating alone, or with a partner is absolutely fine, until it takes over your life. Such obessional issues are probably the cover for things that aren't going well for other reasons.
Do you find intimacy hard? Do you find sharing your world with someone difficult? This stuff is very common.
As you sound as if you're affecting your wife and the relationship is suffering, I suggest that you do all that you can to communicate with her about things. Whether you start with your sex life as a topic or include it, whilst sharing and opening up, this can only help strengthen the foundation of your love for each other.
You don't need a doctor to become more open with your wife. Maybe you'd find it easier to talk to a counsellor about things too. Masturbation is a normal activity for most married guys.
In any event, your focus must be to channel your energies-some of which you're using for masturbation now- instead to communicating and regaining the closeness with your partner.
Good luck! Rob
2007-02-21 18:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rob E 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whenever you feel the urge, go take a piss, that will damp the urge momentarily. If you have enough time then showering also helps but try to keep the water as cold as possible. Warm water tends to promote the urge. If you are lathering yourself then don't spent too much time around that part just start scrubbing your neck or hair to get your attention off it.
If you feel insecure on bed then you might want to put a handful of Vaseline. You might feel the urge again but it actually is so viscous that it tends to ruin the moment.
At the last resort, you can try anti-depressant which has a side effect of lowering the sexual urge. But to get a prescription, you need to visit a doctor. Trust me they take the issue very seriously and will keep it at highest level of confidentiality. Hope these helped.
2007-02-21 16:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by jellymarrow13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to go to the doctor for that, theres nothing he could really prescribe to you for that. All you need to do is practice self control.
why is that you feel you have the urge to masturbate?? are you not satisfied with your wife? that could or could not be the case.
My best advice to you is to sit down and talk to your wife about everything that is going on right now. Might not sound like the best idea but communication in a relationship is the most important thing to prevent it from falling. you could talk to her about what is going through your head when you masturbate...does she probably not give you enough sex that's makes you want to do that?? if so you guys could come into an agreement. But my best advice to you is to sit with your wife and tell her everything that is going on, and let her know that you dont want to do it anymore and that you need her help, and that you dont want to see your sex life with her fall. in order to make any changes in a relationship, both of you have to be in agreement to do it. So all i could say to you is talk to her because only between the both of you can anything in your life change.
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-19 15:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by laural8477 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Anti depressant meds slow down that desire.. Maybe you need to get out and do some car washing.. laundry, physical work.. join a gym.. You have too much time on your hands.. Where is your wife when your doing this? At work? Might be having some stress problems and your doing this to relieve the stress.. but too much makes it worse.. They do have meetings for people in your situation. Sex addicts.. through A.A. or similar.. I have a friend who is a shrink who specializes in that field.. Good luck.. ps.. get rid of your porn collection or internet. lol
2007-02-19 16:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it mate. I've got some bad habits too, in fact mine are smoking and masturbation. Trouble is, I'm having a problem knocking em on the head as I'm a 20 a day man and smoke like a chimney!
2007-02-19 16:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all paint your finger nails or put those false ones on then lie on your arm till it goes numb then it will feel and look like a womans doing it to ya or let you wife have a go for you so she wont feel so left out
2007-02-22 04:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by paragong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spermint tea makes the male hormone level producton drop and that lowers libido and that a fact !! lol
2007-02-22 07:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by geordie_boi_86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.... dont watch porn... if you need to get off, use your wife... if she's not there, do something else which requires concentration... like office work, or puzzles or crosswords..
you can try taking a cold shower... or drinking cold water...
2007-02-19 15:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by LP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it if you want it doesnt do u any harm but if you want to stop get ur wife to do it then she wont be left out! oh and ur not the only 1 im doin it as i speak (lol)
2007-02-20 17:57:10 · answer #11 · answered by Kyle S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋