I met someone online recently, and we've been e-mailing each other. We're getting close to the point where we are ready to meet. I know it's probably too soon, but at what point should I tell her that I'm bisexual?
2007-02-19 07:45:39 · 8 answers · asked by njbiguy07 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you need to tell her right away!!!! remember, like you, she has feelings too... ~~jess~~
2007-02-19 15:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. i know it's difficult to just be up front about things like that, but trust me, it's much more difficult when those things come out later. Finding out my ex (who i met online) was Transgendered 2 months into the relationship was a shock i wasn't prepared for (it's not what ended the relationship, but was a factor), but if he could've told me straight up and given me a chance to really wrap my head around the idea, i would've at least respected his honesty and would've been more willing to accept him as he was. That's why i was straight up with him and my new boyfriend that i'm bi-curious because i wanted to avoid that. But anyway, i think you should just tell her. Hopefully, she could understand or at least respect your honesty, but if not, i hope someday you could find someone who can.
2007-02-19 08:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the point in telling her ur bi at all
maybe u should never tell her
but if u do i say casually bring it up into conversation and drop the bomb
u could talk about the Freudian perspective of love and as her if she agrees and then be like 'o well, i think he was rite on, im bisexual'
(Freud thot we are all innately bi b/c if u really in love w/ someoen would it really matter if they were a boy or a girl?..he thot that we fall in love with people not gender)
2007-02-19 07:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by NemotheFish 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say you took too long already. I wouldn't appreciate not being told, omiting certain things it's also called lying. You can't build a relationship based on lies.
2007-02-19 09:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Guagui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be afraid to tell her!
i know that if i met someone i thought i liked honest would be the best way to start a relationship.
good luck!
Laura :]]
2007-02-19 08:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Laura<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is becoming serious now. If you can be true to one person then it shouldn't make a difference.
Tammi Dee
2007-02-19 07:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not tell her, at the very least, until after you meet. And then it is wise to wait.
2007-02-19 09:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her first if she has a problem with that sexuality....then if its a yes...tell her b4 u meet
if its a no...tell her anyway and i wouldnt talk to her again if that was me(i guess)
2007-02-19 08:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Toni-ann M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋