I work at a daycare care with a 19 year old girl with a 3 week old baby. During her pregnacy she lied to everyone in her life about being pregnant, including her family, our boss. She was completely unprepared, she had nothing for the baby and had not seen a doctor at all. Now, even though she lied about her pregnancy, everyone has bought her everything for the baby...and they our now keeping the baby (starting at one week) for her at least two nights a week. At three weeks old the baby is in daycare, and the mom is back at work. She has continualy discussed how the baby "has her fits and I just let her cry" I'm worried that shes not going to her the baby. I think her plan was to pretend she didn't have a baby and get rid of her. She went into labor at work and begged to go home, claiming she was just sick. Other than her attempting to stroll the baby a mile to the store in the winter at just a few days old I have nothing to call neglect on. I'm scared for the baby what do I do?
2007-02-19 07:37:26 · 13 answers · asked by mememememememememe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The center I work for requires us to speak with management if there is concern and they will take care of it. Unfortuntaly I talked to them (being her family) they ignored this. To call CPS you MUST have an address, I don't. I feel like it's a lost cause but everyday it gets worse and worse I hate to "wait and see what happens" this child is without a mother. Today she called a friend at 6am sent the baby there without formula had her buy it and cant pay her back. ???? she has WICK why would she do that? then when the baby was switched to another friend at 4pm without seeing mom for the rest of the night and untill 4 tomorrow????? How can she not want to spend time with her child she's less than a month old and she's leaving her with anyone! She doesn't know there address or full names!! This is just sad....but she hasn't hit neglect YET....its not right that there is nothing anyone can do for this baby...p.s. i have started a log of events
2007-02-19 13:44:23 · update #1
The only thing you can really do is keep observing what she's doing. The minute you see something that is considered neglect, call CPS. Right now, everything you have is pretty much just opinions. Just keep a close eye on things.
To the person who commented on my answer: Nothing she said is grounds for CPS to do anything concerning that child. Obiviously the baby is fine, even though she didn't get any prenantal care. She has everything she needs for the baby whether she paid for it or not. There is nothing wrong with letting someone keep your kids for you. Every parent needs a break. Nothing wrong with the baby being in daycare. More than likely, she is a single parent who has to work, to SUPPORT her child. There is nothing wrong with letting a child cry. I don't know exactly why she's letting the baby cry, but more than likely she has her reason. It doesn't matter what someone "thinks her plan was." You can't prove that. And sometimes when you don't have a car, you have to walk. So get over it. There is nothing that can be done, unless the child is NEGLECTED, NOT FEED, or ABUSED. What this woman described is none of those.
2007-02-19 07:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well from what you describe it doesn't really sound like the baby is in danger at this point so there is nothing really that you can do. Letting her baby cry is not abuse.....some babies cry and cry alot for no reason I would rather hear that she is letting it cry and not hurting it because it won't stop. And just because she is back to work with baby in daycare does not make her a bad person either....if she is a single mom she may have no other choice(have known many women who had to return to work before their six weeks was up.)
2007-02-19 15:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call CPS. Tell them this and tell them you know where the baby is in daycare. They should follow up and ask the daycare management for the girl's address. This is a matter of concern for the baby and if all information is not provided, they should investigate. This poor child is being neglected and that is abuse. I applaud you for being concerned. if that doesn't work, then have evryone who knows the child and mother call Cps. maybe then they will investigate. Good luck and god bless you and the baby
2007-02-23 15:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetbeba05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Document everything you observe. As a daycare provider, you could be held liable if the child is abused and you didn't report it.
Once you feel that you have something to go on, call Children's Services. You can file an anonymous complaint, and they may be able to give you literature showing you what to look for in abuse and neglect cases.
2007-02-19 15:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read all the answers so if I am repeating anything I apologize. 1st document what you see have a notebook and keep a log good or bad.this way if you do have to call CPS you can show them what you observed. of course being a daycare teacher it's not like you can write down every second, but note worthy incidents are another story. hope it works out.
2007-02-19 16:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by cindy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may feel like a really sneaky thing to do but if you're truly convinced that she isn't treating the baby right, and that includes ingoring the child, then you must do something. Babies need cuddles and love. They do not develop properly without them. Call child services anonomously. They will investigate her and may even force parenting classes which she clearly needs anyway.
Good luck and never feel like you can't look out for the welfare of a child even if you feel weird about it.
The alternative is much much worse.
2007-02-19 15:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Caitlin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do. Not telling anyone that you're pregnant isn't a crime. It's not to intelligent to skip going to the doctor, but it's not illegal either.
Because you work at a daycare....aren't you obligated by law to report any suspected abuse? Like the schools are?
If you have suspicions you can make an anonymous call to DHR or DHS...But if it's a blatant false report you make, like she kicked the baby or something, you can be held liable.
2007-02-19 15:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Moonfrolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Childrens services, there was a lady who did they same didnt tell anyone she was pregnant, had the baby at home, then threw it in a dumpster, call childrens services before its too late and the baby its harmed
2007-02-19 15:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by lil_luman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No! Liyah's mommy....no!.
You have enough information to make a report. There is no reason why this child should be allowed to remain in this womans care.
Report the matter forthwith and explain your concerns. There is no reason to 'wait until something happens', as that very well could be...TOO LATE.
2007-02-19 15:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by roast_breadfruit 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
call a social worker in your area maybe theyll go and observe her and see in which conditions that poor baby is living in just explain your feelings and your fears maybe theyll put the baby in foster care p0r to his or her grandma.. good luck i get ur con cerns my sons 5 mths old and ive never let him out my sight and id be damned if my sons gonna cry allday.
2007-02-19 15:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by chex_1r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋