she's like my best friend, and we never fight. but she's just so cranky all the time (she has a medical problem and doesn't get enough sleep). She can be so negative and draining sometimes. She said something to me that wasn't very nice. I might just let it go and avoid her, but I have to sit by her in some of my classes and she doesn't know she offended me. @ least, not yet. What should I do? I dread having to deal ww/ her tomorrow.
2007-02-19 07:32:34 · 7 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her the truth && how you feel.
2007-02-19 07:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by ɫɦɾouɡɦ ɫɦɛ ɛɣɛʂ oʄ ɫɦɛ ɑvɛɴɢɛd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a good friend like this too. No matter how much of a problem your friend has (medically speaking) she can't expect you to put up with just 'whatever she throws at you'. You need to talk to her and explain how difficult you find it and how you're finding your friendship a strain at times. You can tell her all this without being mean, just by stressing what a good friend she is in other ways but say she will have to work at trying to treat you better otherwise your friendship will be threatened. I had to do this with a friend and it was hard but she appreciated it later, and now our relationship is not only stronger but much more honest. If she's a true friend she will appreciate your honesty because it shows you want to preserve the friendship rather than just walking away.
2007-02-19 15:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's behavior is not within her control so please continue to be kind and patient with her, but you must also consider what this close relationship is doing to you personally. Spend less time with this person in order to protect your own stability so that although the two of you can remain friends you won't always be together. Both of you will be happier because whenever you are with her you won't have this sense of discomfort and/or resentment. Friendship is meant to be a pleasant thing so make the best of it if you can, and if not you might have to bail out for your own sake.
We can always reach out to help others but when we find ourselves being pulled down that is the time to let go.
2007-02-19 15:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this will sound silly, but she sounds like y Mother! I recently started telling her that her negativity was bringing me down. I also started bringing up the lighter side of things that she was all doom and gloom about. Just talk to her. My Mom didn't even realize how bad and whiny she was acting and now (after a couple months) we can laugh about it. Of course, if you sense that she may be depressed or something, you should talk to an adult who may be able to talk to her. good luck...great job being a good friend!
2007-02-19 15:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decision time. Some peeps just keep their friends cause theirs nobody else. Another words out of convenience. Whats more important your friendship or happiness? Good Luck.
2007-02-19 15:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to approach her and tell her you were hurt by what she said. maybe she didn't mean it the way she said it. sometimes people say things they dont mean or don't say it right. sounds like she needs to see a dr. for the sleep problem. lack of sleep will make you irritable.
2007-02-19 15:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by avalon123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-19 15:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋