we have bonded over similiar past hurts and now it seems like we are both attracted to each other but are scared to invade each other space. sometimes she partially shows me her breast saying her blouse is too low-cut,question shouldn't you know when you buy the blouse. lately she has been rubbing up against me. we work together.yet she does communicate or want me to visit her. is she playing games with me or is she like me scared to let each other know we care? is she really me friend? and don't know how to be friends because of her past. NO! i'm straight but lately i've been curious about sleeping with her. shes 59 and married and i am 39 and single. i've always had straight relations which confuses me why now the curiousity? we get a long very well, a lot of jokes and laughs. it truly feels like we are friends. what should i do? she means a lot to me as a friend. sometimes she does not like to see me other friends and i sometimes feel the same way. please give opinion and advice.
2007-02-19 07:30:16 · 17 answers · asked by nicegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know a married couple that the wife carried on a lesbian life style for a few years. The guilt and shame eat away at her and her family. Don't do it just out of curiosity. The long-term price to pay could be enormous.
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2007-02-19 07:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, your aren't 100% straight if your seriously considering to make this friendship more than just a friendship. Your bicurious with the possibility of being bisexual, or straight, depending on the outcome of this.
Secondly, you may actually be confusing sameness in feelings and things in common, with a sexual love relationship. You may both have similar feelings about life, agree on many things, been hurt in similar ways in the past emotionally, and maybe you bond well together as one human being to the other. But that doesn't mean you actually want to be romantically involved with each other.
Sometimes you may become so close to someone else as friends, that you or they may get a little jealous of other friends you may have. This is normal behavior and still doesn't mean you or she wants to be romantically involved with each other. It's normal behavior because sometimes some people want all your attention for themselves. It's like a child who wants mommys full attention at all times and even gets jealous when anyone else talks to her, but that doesn't mean the child wants romance.
My advice to you is to talk with her about your feelings directly. If your as close as you say, this shouldn't be too difficult to do. This way, you can test your bicuriousity to clarify your confusion to see if you really do want her romantically, or if you were just confused and really like her as a great friend.
Good luck.
2007-02-19 07:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex. She will get pregnant. And die. I'm just joking. Seriously, do what you want. You know her and I'm sure you know what the right answer is. And if she values her independence as you say, then theoretically she won't mind if you say no. Maybe you should just tell her that all you want is a friendship with her and you think that having sex will compromise the friendship. Good luck either way.
2016-05-24 11:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sleep with her. You have both been hurt and need a close woman to talk to. maybe you feel some sexual attraction to each other, but I think sleeping together will ruin what could be a great friendship. I just don't think sleeping together was meant to be. Keep it in the jokes and laughs realm. If you sleep together you will ruin it. for encouragement, listen to ttb.org.
2007-02-19 07:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is married...don't try anything! Even if you did there would be a whole lot of drama and your friendship will most likely fall apart. Also she works with you...never fool around with someone from your workplace, it will likely bite you in the a**
2007-02-19 07:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of you guys needs to step up and just be blunt. It may be hard and take major "balls" but its got to be done if you want to get to the bottom of it. Ask her what you just asked us. If you're that curious go for it. Talk to her, but if shes married, isn't that very wrong? Maybe she wants you to be apart of them as a group thing. Talk to her. Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-19 07:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by AE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget about gender and social labels
people very often like each other because of their spirit or personality the gender is of secondary concern
or the change to same sex is erotic
just do what you want ,she is available ,that much is clear and you are both very adult ,so there is nothing to stop you
mazzeltoff
2007-02-19 07:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you two tease and joke sometimes. try this: ask her the name brand of her bras and compliment how nice they look..... then cup her breast and say with a laugh "such lift they give you". but don't hang on -- just a quickie -- see how she responds.
tell her yours don't fit as well. adjust your breast in your bra and ask if they're straight....... work with it from there. maybe she'll check out your lift.
2007-02-19 07:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two should talk about it. Many older women especially ones who are divorced are finding themselves attracted to women. Also, just becasue she is married doesn't mean she may not be attracted to a woman also.
2007-02-19 07:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by puggylover 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like sexual tension. If u dont know what it is, its when you and a co-worker are together for a long time. U may feel some "urges". You should just ignor them, its just a stage.
2007-02-19 07:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by 1m@ h3@rT Br3@k3r 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋