Bi,Gay or Confused ??

Question

I am 26 and have just started a new relationship with a woman and alot of supressed homosexual feelings are running in my head. A little backround I had my first sexual experience ever with any one was a man when I was 20 . Later at 23 I went out on a double date and wound up having sex with this girl I just met . I was able to perform but have trouble staying hard when I am with a woman. I have had this happen with 3 other women too. I have not been with a man again since my first time but I am having homoerotic dreams. I think I feel an atraction to both sexes but can only perform my best with a guy. I am so Confused. What makes a bi person get off the fence and go gay or straight?

Answer 1

If your desire to be with a man is so overwhelming that you don't think you could maintain a monogamous relationship with a woman, then you should consider exploring 'your gay side'. You may find that even though you feel the sex is better with a man, a long-term relationship with a woman is more important to you. It's really just something you need to figure out for yourself.

Answer 2

Well a bi person is a bi person. Generally however, the preference is tipped to one or the other.

In your case, its tipped to males. All the signs indicate it. That is not going to change.

So -- the question is: Why did you wait so long to have sex to start with? Why are you suppressing what you prefer? and Do you really hope to "get off the fence" in a way that is best for you -- or are you looking to "become straight" and have the gay feelings and preference go away? If so, why?

Email me, I'd be glad to try to help -- but there isn't enough information here --I'm guessing based on context.

Kind thoughts,

Reynolds
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Answer 3

For me, it's all about the person, rather than the gender. I've always liked both and felt i could've gone either way, but i fell in love with a man, so i'm "straight" (i kept my crush on Christina Aguilera, though :p), but if i'd have fallen in love with a woman, i'd be gay, so that's how i got off the fence,anyway.
But in your situation, did you actually have a relationship with the guy you gave your virginity to; were there feelings involved? And with the girls, you said the one you slept with when you just met her; were they all like that? It could be that you didn't find the right person yet. But just in case i'm the only person who still believes in all of that, if you weren't in a relationship, i'd suggest casually dating, getting some more experience with both sexes to see which you like better, which you feel more comfortable with, etc. But since you're in a relationship, it's not as cut and dry as that. Is it a serious relationship? Does she know about your repressed feelings? I think the best thing you could do--despite how difficult i know it is--is talk to her. Sometimes lovers are understanding of those situations (my boyfriend told me that if i ever wanted to "experience" a woman, he'd let me and wouldn't consider it cheating as long as i was honest about it because it's something i never acted on before i ended up in a serious relationship and he doesn't want me to miss or deny part of who i am for him), sometimes,they're not. But if she isn't, my best advice is to try to find someone of either gender who can understand and accept that part of who you are.

Answer 4

Follow your desires and stop worrying about what caused them - as long as acting on them would not be a crime or destructive to others.

Where you best perform is undoubtedly where you best belong. But you can still try other instruments for diversion, even if not as perfect a performer.

Answer 5

bigay is the bottom note so it is a noun. and when we placed affixes on the bottom note, it may both be a verb like "ibigay" (u've extra the prefix i) or "bigyan" (a suffix grow to be extra), both are in destiny stressful kinds; or yet another noun "bigayan". bigay mo sa bata ang kendi means an similar aspect including your first sentence and evidently also maximum ideal. you in trouble-free terms lack an apostrophe on the starting up of the verb. it will be: 'Bigay mo sa bata and kendi. a shortened version of Ibigay mo sa bata ang kendi. that is like the "besides the undeniable fact that" in english. that is easily "besides the undeniable fact that" so it must be written as 'besides the undeniable fact that. we basically from time to time want the shortened version of the note exceptionally in casual utilization.

Answer 6

Best way is to ask the women you had sex with. Be frank to them and explain them your problem. if they were satisfied with your performance, you are a normal guy.

Answer 7

Gay.

Answer 8

Just consider urself bisexual.