To me, she sounded broken up over the lost of her beloved aunt and i was wondering what can i do to comfort her? One promblem: We live in different state. Please advise me on this and whatever answers will make me very pleased!
2007-02-19 06:55:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's too bad that you live in a different state. Would it be possible to catch a train over, or anything?
You have no idea how many brownie points you would score if you showed up on her doorstep holding a half gallon of Ben and Jerry's, and two spoons. You don't get opportunities like this one very often, so if at all possible, make the best of it.
On a side note, other people are talking about sending flowers. Check and see what she wants- I wouldn't be surprised if she would feel guilty about getting flowers when a loved one was the one that died. She may prefer for you to provide flowers at the funeral, or something similar.
2007-02-19 07:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bobby S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your situation is or your schedule but if you could work it I'd fly down to be with her for a while. That way you can help her with all the really hard stuff. Beyond the funeral and arrangments there is the time when it is quiet, that's when things really hit hard.
If you can't do that then send her some flowers with a nice letter or poem from you. Make it personal. Remind her that you are availiable if she needs someone to talk to or if she just needs to cry. You don't neccisarily have to say a lot, you just need to listen and let her talk and remember. I think that she will be glad just to know that you care enough to want to support her. That speaks a million words!
2007-02-19 07:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cannuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her some flowers and give her a call-- make sure she knows that you're there for her. Make yourself available if she needs someone to talk to during her mourning period. I've personally never lost a family member, but if I did, I think that would probably make me feel better (it'd be a start, anyway).
2007-02-19 07:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by Chakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to start out with calling your local florist shop and ordering flowers and a sympathy card, this shows you care and how sorry you are for her loss. You can have the florist shop contact a shop in her state and they will do the rest of the leg work for you. Hope this helps.
2007-02-19 07:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her flowers to comfort her. Call her more often to ask how she's doing. You can't fix her sorrow but you can be there to comfort her when she needs someone to talk to. Just making yourself available to her is about all you can do.
2007-02-19 07:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know you are there for her now as you have been in the past. Stay in touch via phone & e-mails. If you haven't already sent her a sympathy card, she'd appreciate a card, I'm sure.
2007-02-19 07:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always send a card and flowers but right now just reassure her you are there for her and let her talk about her feelings if and when she is ready. Just knowing you care about her will make her feel better. :)
2007-02-19 07:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Atropabelladonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, listen to her, and help her through it. Send her flowers or do something nice for her, send her something she likes, just love her.
2007-02-19 07:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by krazy_chic6944 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for her
2007-02-19 06:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Tamalee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋