i think that i was molested but i dont know i was about 10-13 by a guy/familymember was u know tuching me ans he was 15-17 im just not sure what to do but this guy is living with us now and i dont know what to do
2007-02-19 06:34:52 · 19 answers · asked by chrstl_garcia 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You need to tell someone A.S.A.P. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-19 06:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chrystl,
I'm so sorry for your pain. To answer your question: you were molested - and it's not your fault.
"Child molestation" means a child is molested. The perpetrator doesn't have to be an adult. If this guy touched you in a way with which you were uncomfortable/ashamed, it's sexual abuse, plain and simple. You don't have to be six and he doesn't have to be 32.
Many people are abused by family members who, themselves, are underage. Older brothers are probably the most common, but cousins, young uncles, etc. are all more common abusers than you might suspect.
The bottom line is that you deserve some help and support. If you are still a minor, you may want to confide in a trusted, trustworthy adult.
Here are some web resources that may be helpful:
http://incestabuse.about.com
www.voices-action.org
www.wiit.com
www.sssalas.com
There are also some excellent books including "The Courage To Heal" which can be found at any book chain, in person or online.
You're in my prayers...
2007-02-19 07:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by bumsteadowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you were molested? Either you were or you weren't..
Molestation, occurs when one unconsenting individual is fondled, groped, or sexually touched by another party.
How old are you know, and what is precipitating the question.
There is a school of thought in the psychology that people can be regressed through therapy to recall events that may or may not have occured. In all likelihood the majority of events reported as molestation discovered during this type of therapy has been coined "False Memory Syndrome".. Either you recall the events of a molestation or you don't.
It did or did not happen. Not, "i dont know" .. You are for some reason needing an explanation or an excuse for something. And trying to place blame on an external source is common. Don't ruin someone's life until you "know".
2007-02-19 06:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, go talk to your parents about this. Make sure you have all of your facts straight first because you do no talk as though you know for sure it even happened. Keep you distance from this individual in the mean time, and just explain to your Mom and dad you do not feel comfortable around this person. Nothing else has to be said except that, unless you are sure he did molest you.
2007-02-19 06:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child molestation usually ocurs when the perpetrator is 3 years or more. molestation is also a crime and thats any unwated sexally provocative advances.
Step 1....TALK...tell your parents/ schoo counsellor/ doctor...any professional who will report the allegation so it can be investiated.
Step 2....LOOK for warning signs in yourself....low self esteem/ withdrawing from social contact/ inability to relate to peers/ depressio/ mental or emotional or spiritual disconnection/ etc. These are all considered signs of abuse.
Step 3....Keep talking until you find someone to listen to ...there are numerous community agencies you can phone for advice.
Main thing is ...you do not have to live in fear and any concerns regarding this guy should be addressed!
good luck and take care always! :)
2007-02-19 06:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by shak2043 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it does not have to be between a child and an adult. Someone the age of the guy you mentioned should know better unless they are mentally impaired. He knew what he was doing I would say and knew it was wrong. Did he tell you not to tell? That would really prove that he knew he was doing wrong. I think you should say something to someone in charge so that you will not be taken advantage of again.
2007-02-22 09:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Wilma S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not unusual for an older minor to molest a younger child. Discuss your concerns with your parents, or you may want to approach a teacher or school counselor if you feel more comfortable.
2007-02-19 06:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by telling your parents. You're looking for someone to nurture you and listen to every word. Then you need to ask for this goal: "Make me feel SAFE". Don't settle for anything less!!!
Should your parents stand by him and deny it ---> then seek help from a friend & your friends parent. Again, you may be turned away by them denying it. In this situation, you'll need to reach out into the community to priests/ ministers, teachers, or police (if in immediate danger call 911).
What ever you do, don't give up until someone makes you feel "SAFE" both physically and mentally.
2007-02-19 09:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moleter does not have to be an adult. Laws vary from state to state. Talk to a school counselor or a TRUSTED older family member.
2007-02-19 06:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child molesation does not have happen with an adult. Tell your parents or counselor what happened. By all means press charges. Whatever you do, do not keep silent cause he will feel that he can do it again. God Bless.
2007-02-19 06:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by lavachk1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything sexual was ever done to you against your will or you felt uncomfortable about at the time then tell a responsible adult who can do something to protect you and punish the offender.
2007-02-19 06:47:12 · answer #11 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋