I enjoy dating women who are smarter, more successful, have more personality, and even may be more athletic, as it makes the relationship very fun. However, I don't think I could handle a relationship where the women was the physical protector of the two. For instance, if we were ever mugged or approached by a violent man, that she would be better qualified and able to protect us.
I know that is sexist. And if I ever had daughters, I would certainly want them to know how to protect themself. But I would feel really weird, and probably less of a man, if I needed a women to physically protect me. Again, I think women should learn how to protect themselves so they don't need men. But men generally being stronger, I don't think I could handle having to rely on women for protection.
Again, I realize this is sexist. But I wonder how both so-called feminists and most women think about this. Wouldn't most women want a guy that could protect them if it was necessary?
Thoughts?
2007-02-19 06:20:31 · 14 answers · asked by mcentee34 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Why can't you both be protectors?
If you are both capable of defending yourselves, and both capable of defending each other, isn't that better?
2007-02-19 06:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Vegan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is built like a tank and Im not. I love feeling absolutely safe with him, even walking around in the city at night.
I would feel absolutely betrayed if someone was trying to mug us, and he went "fend em off honey!"
We both know that I do not have the muscle content or the experience that he has had (kickboxing, a lot of sports, has broken up bar fights before) so he is naturally more qualified to take care of that sort of thing. (ive only ever made two people bleed in my entire life, and it was purely by accident.)
I do want to take self defense classes or at least learn how to throw a good punch just so I feel a bit more confident when I am by myself.
2007-02-19 07:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are generally physically stronger. That is an undeniable fact that shouldn't ruffle any rational person's feathers, so to speak. It would be good to have a man that could protect the both of us, but it would be better to have a man that realizes besides physical strength, we are equal.
2007-02-19 06:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally can take care of myself, I know how to shoot the gun that I own, take out some jerk when I'm not armed...but I love knowing that my man wants to protect me. It's just different somehow. When I'm with him then i'm not worried at all. And if the situation ever arose that we needed protecting he wouldn't feel threatened if I protected us both. It's all about love and trust. He laughs cause I got jumped by two guys last summer (he was overseas) and ended up beating the piss outta both of them...course he wasn't happy that I did get hurt, but his manhood wasn't threatened cause I took care of it myself! I definately am glad that I have a man that can and will protect me!
2007-02-19 07:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by hockey_chick44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I judge men by their individual merits. Having a bodyguard has never been a high priority for me. I'd rather have someone who cares for me when I'm ill, is a good father, is reliable, and considerate.
I did end up with a man who is physically capable, but I was military and mostly dated other military, so the odds were high that I'd end up with a spouse who had that quality.
2007-02-19 06:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Shane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would make me feel totally weird. My fiance was a karate state champion a few years ago. He's very strong. Although I would like to learn martial arts for my own protection, it would be weird to be stronger than your husband. I wouldnt like it.
2007-02-19 06:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want an self sufficient female yet there comes a aspect the position if she's so self sufficient and she fairly would not want me all that a lot, what's the point of even being in a relationship? If she would not want me or want me on any aspect then there is not any aspect to the relationship.
2016-12-04 09:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your question is hard. Yes women expect their man to protect them,but what if u werent avaiable to protect her?? Wouldnt you want her to know hoe to protect herself if u couldnt be there. quit thinkin that u would be less of a man.
2007-02-19 06:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by michele t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls are too insecure, usually, to be able to protect the men they love.
2007-02-19 07:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont like men who protect women all the time it makes me feel weak think about it u dont like it when a women protects u how do u think they feel
2007-02-19 06:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋