How to convince someone who is adament to break up our relations. It's hasnt bn matterilized yet, but she is

Question

I have bn in relations with a lady who not yet bn divorced with two kids, I am divorcee for last 4yrs, our relationns started for the last 4 and 1/2 mos, and both use to talk by phone for hours and hours, our relation were so nice and both decided to get married after her divorced, it's to be mentioned thats her husband disowned her long time, now they are seperated but not divorced. I was ready to accept her by all means, even convince my family family members and I was so obssessed with her and I was ready take all responsibility of her and her kids. We had tremendous relationship, even though we didnt see each other except photo. But becos of her personality I liked more than anything, I have shared everything with her including my past/marriage life etc. etc. One thing I never disclosed that I have date with few girls when I got divorced, I never bn living together with those girls, and occassionally I use to drink. After revealing tthat she just mad at me and decided b/up, any ad

Answer 1

You have been totally honest with this lady now she is using that against you. I agree that you are obsessed with this lady and should step back as she is not divorced as yet, could change her mind and go back to her husband. If she does not want to start a real live relationship with you then tell her to think about it and give her time, let her be the one to contact you just leave her alone for now.

Answer 2

I am still with a seperated but still married man after 5 years now. If there is already no existing court document asking for divorce it will probably take a very long time once it is started because they have kids together. Courts always want to deal with custody first then the divorce. That is why my spouse is still married, custody battles don't just settle themselves in court on one trip. If you can live with her being married for the next couple of years then go for it. But my advise it sounds like she can't accept you for the few mistakes that you have made in your past. I would pass on her for that reason alone. Afterall what is it that her husband disowned her for anyway? I would take a guess that it is something along the same lines.

Answer 3

maybe she has had problems with another who drank in her past. maybe she felt that this was just too big of a problem. u should never have put your faith in someone u hardly knew, who was married to someone else. even though u have accepted her unconditionally, she hasn't u. best to accept it, and look for love elsewhere.

Answer 4

You & her & her husband should definely appear on The Jerry Springer Show.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Jerry_Springer_Show