Men....and stripclubs?

Question

My husband went to a strip club, a few times, and I HATE IT! But he said that the lap dances aren't what I think and that men there weren't all crazy. So my questions is how do you men act when getting lap dances, do you usually get aroused? And how are the lap dances, do the women usually rub themseleves all over you? The images in my head don't match with my husband so I'm just trying to get them set straight

Well I don't want my husband to be going to stripclubs. He doesn't give a **** though. He has single friends and is an asshole.

Answer 1

Well as far as them rubbing on you it depends on the club and the laws in your state. Yes you get a little aroused but you don't sleep with stripper. It is just harmless fun

Answer 2

I used to work in a club and although each club is different I can safely say that any man getting a lap dance is also getting aroused.
Some clubs are more strict than others as to what is allowed during a lap dance as far as touching goes but in the end it really depends on the dancer and what she is willing to do for money.
All this doesn't really matter, what matters is that if you have told your husband how strongly you feel about his going to the clubs than he should respect you enough not to go. Period.
Offer to give him a lap dance yourself at home, if he still insists on going to the club than I suspect you might have a problem.

Answer 3

I have gone to strip clubs. I have taken my wife to strip clubs. If you hate it so much, why is he still going? If my wife really hated it (she doesn't really care) then I would stop. However, to answer your question, yes, I get aroused when getting lap dances (that's why you get them,) yes, they usually rub themselves all over you, but, if nothing comes of it (as in he doesn't cheat on you) and he comes home to you, is there really anything wrong with it?

I don't go very often, maybe once a year, so I wouldn't consider it a habit. If your husband goes a lot more, you may need to ask him why.

Answer 4

If you hate strip clubs I hope that you have let your husband know this. If you really want to see what they are like, then I suggest going to one. I'm a woman and I've been to a few. If you're not too turned off by the idea, you should go with your husband. You might end up having more fun than you would think.

Answer 5

Men are visual creatures and the majority of the time lead by the penis. He may very well be faithful and love you dearly but it's inconsiderate as he knows it hurts you. Lap dances are essentialy a form of cheating, afterall he is indirectly touching another woman in an erotic way, not just looking. It's one thing if you don't mind or if it's something you enjoy together but if it is hurting you then he is breaking the marriage vows. Nothing is more damaging to a woman... nothing... than thinking that her man would rather look at another woman.. you need to explain it to him, because trust me.. it will end your marriage if he doesn't comprimise... these things have away of coming out later down the road. If he really VALUES you then he will not go and he won't complain about it either.

Answer 6

I am bisexual have gone to strip clubs many times. With and without my husband. I have gotton dances and seen girls give other people dances. Most men arent drooling the way they do in movies but of course its a very srousing place. People dont sit at the bar, sipping their beer talking about sports. Theyre watching the women. Theres one girl who I touched and she touched me back. My husband and I played with girls breasts right out. there. Sometimes genitals get touched. But women get away with a little more it seems. Theres some grinding but it depends on the place and the girls, too. My husband and I go together but I happen to like girls. My husband never says or does ANYTHING that passes our line. No comparing, and no "I want to f*** that"(unless prompted. My husband is home EVERY night. He's faithful and considerate. It turns us both on. If your not okay with him going(and Im not either, so I dont blame you) then he shouldnt be going. He's leaving you at home to go look at OTHER women. Very uncool. Get it together girl and tell him it stops or your gone. You want and DESERVE a man who'll treat you with respect. These men DO exist. I have one and I know a few others and sadly, most of these women are still nagging brats. The image in your head is close enough/

Answer 7

I'm not a man, but have plenty of male friends. of course, they get aroused. the good ones come home and take it out on their woman. At the same time though, how would he feel if you frequented a male strip club? I certainly wouldn't want my man in a strip club. They almost always act single while they're there. That's a fact!

Answer 8

The only way to truly answer your questions is to go to a strip club your self. I'm not saying go & get a lapdance or drop dollars on the stage (although if you decide to try it...). I've been to a strip club a couple of times (once was to take my son for his 18th B-day). I don't see what all the excitement is, but then I guess I'm not supposed to. My point is...there is nothing wrong with you going to find out for yourself & that is the only way your question can truly be answered to any satisfaction.

Answer 9

If men didn't get aroused there is something medically wrong with them!!!!!!!! That is the strippers job to rub themselves all over the person, if permitted at that place, and make them horny so they will get $$. It is all fantasy, they are NOT allowed to leave with the woman. There are ALOT of rules for the girls and the people who go there. Some are women too.

Answer 10

Well im sure they get aroused, what would be the point otherwise? Most men would get aroused with a near-naked women gyrating on them.
Their not allowed to touch the girls, so thats one good thing, but personally i wouldnt be happy if my husband did it.

If you hate it, i feel he should respect your wishes, maybe you could give him a lap dance at home so he wont feel the need to go there?