Here's the situation I am a 32 y/o female with 0 kids. and here I am with this 38 y/o man with 0 kids. We've been dating for 7 years now and it seems that he has gotten to the point where he is comfortable with how things are. He seems that he doesn't want to better himself as far as finances are concerned as well as now he has that attitude that I am the woman I should do this and that, but he know before anything I truly say how I feel.The thing I am getting at is when is enough- enough.
2007-02-19 04:49:53 · 23 answers · asked by meme32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't really understand your question.....enough of WHAT??
You've liked him as he is all this time, and now you want him to change??? Change to what? Why didn't you want those things before? People usually can't be molded too much by the time they've reached that age.
2007-02-19 04:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you put an end to it and let him know he is to either get his act together or you're history. The longer you stay and allow him push you around the worse it will get. Don't let it get to the point where he's telling you where you can go and when, who you can see and when you can see them.
Yes, you are the WOMAN. Not his personal maid or slave. Any man that is too sorry and lazy to get out and hustle to build up a nest egg and plan for the future, whether he's involved with a woman or just for himself, is an extremely poor excuse for a man.
You've already wasted 7 years with this dead end and you're 32. Do you have another 7 years to just let go no where? Sit him down and lay it on the line for him. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't see anything wrong with the way things are and has no plans to do better then tell him he needs to pack up and ship out or you will. Find someone who wants to go somewhere and be something and who will appreciate having a good woman by his side to help him. I wish you the very best
2007-02-19 13:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deep inside of yourself and find what it is you really really want in life. Respect yourself enough to know you deserve certain things. If somthing is important to you and you are not getting it then maybe you two just aren't meant to be. The things you want are so important and completely understandable. Don't stay with somebody who is going to hold you back. Especially if you have talked to him and he doesn't respect your needs. You are your first priority and there are so many freakin' men out there that want the same thing as you so there is no reason to stay with someone like this. I know how love can be... it will keep you around in the worst situations but there is a point where enough is enough and if he hasn't moved in 7 years ... I would say that this is that point. Good luck girl. Men just suck sometimes.
2007-02-19 13:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by K.A. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey lady, u have to say if u want to marry this guy or not. U go out with a man 7yrs and u r not sure what u want? Wake up girl. If u r done with him (and u alone can tell) dump him and dont look back. If u still care about him, ask him where the relationship is headed. His answer, if he is honest, will tell u his mind.
However, u sound like u can't take him anymore. So just end it and get a life from somewhere else.
2007-02-19 16:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Suv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough when it has been 7 yrs and you have nothing to show for it. This man needs a little shaking up and you have to be the one to do it. He sounds like my ex who only started getting ahead after I left him and moved on. He has tried to get me back with offers of money, home and kids but I have truly moved on.
2007-02-19 12:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, enough is when he starts telling me my "duties" as a woman. I'm not the kind of "barefoot & pregnant, make me a pot pie" kind of girl. If he makes you feel less of a person to him, then that's how he really feels. The second he makes you feel lower than him is enough for me.
Also, a guy who has no motivation to better himself isn't work supporting. Do you really want to support this man for the rest of your life? You don't want to support him like you would a child.
good luck!
2007-02-19 12:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. It was about the point you are at when I had had enough. Since you have more time under your belt with this guy, you may want to try counseling.
2007-02-19 12:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I get the general idea of your question, but I'm not really sure what you are asking or what specifically is pushing you to "enough".
You may say how you feel, but if it is anything like your post, you are not being plainly clear.
2007-02-19 12:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when is enough-enough? When YOU'VE had enough. Noone, and I mean noone will be able to tell you. Trust me, it's gonna hit u like lightining one day. You won't even be here on yahoo asking us. You will 100% know it's time to move on.
2007-02-19 12:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by allywally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough when you think enough is enough which sounds like right now enough is enough. He sounds like a loser. Find someone else who has some drive and let this jerk do his own this and that.
2007-02-19 12:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋