He is in the military delayed entry program which means he went to basic training this past summer came back to finish his senior year and then in May is to return to his military career but that isn't the problem he met this girl who is crazy. He got her an engagement ring and then he found out she is sleeping with his best frined and several other people and once she slept with 4 at once now she is suppose to be pregnat and he said he is taking care of it no matter if it is his or not. He has a great career in front of him and this girl is just using him I have never seen him like this with a girl before, His dad and I have had it he asked is she could move in with us and we told him no and that he needed to find someplace to go because we can't have this type of behavior in the house any longer. My older daugher is pregnat with out 1st grandchild and this girl said she wished she could kick my daugher in the stomach to hurt her baby. My daughter and her hubby are great help
2007-02-19 04:43:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unfortunately we cannot choose partners for our kids. Just keep loving him and praying for him. But he's made his bed and has to lie in it. You need to get him out and keep her away from the rest of your family. Don't give up on your son though, but he's got to go. He is still young and have probably experienced his first love and first loves can be intoxicating. He'll come around, let's just hope it's not after irrepairable damage has been done to him emotionally. Young and head-strong, that is the age for that. Sorry I could not offer more, but it is what it is.
2007-02-19 04:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Slim Shady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if the military delayed entry program makes men out of boys even before they have had a chance to grow up.
You probably wish he could just ship out tomorrow and have the girl remain secluded in a psychiatric hospital, where the baby will at least be looked after until paternity can be determined.
Good luck to your Son, it really sounds like he's going to need it. You too.
2007-02-19 10:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks your bad parents because you won't allow his girlfriend to move in but your doing the best thing for your family. You two would be bad if you allowed this nutcase to move in and possibly harm your daughter and grandchild. It's known as tough love and sometimes there is just no other way. I hope he comes to his senses real soon and demands a paternity test when the child is born. My prayers are with you, your family and the child that will be born to this heinous girl. Good Luck!!
2007-02-19 04:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand precisely what your dealing with. My step brother is eighteen and is going in the process the coolest same element. whilst he lived with us, he stole money from me and lived like a slob. His mom would not even choose for to take him in. We eventally kicked him out. What we attempt to do is positioned him in a harbor abode. What this does is take in little ones/adults and help them get a solid pastime and artwork on social skills and gives you them an training. they might stay their for a 12 months and then their on their very own. on a similar time as they're there, they could be positioned into diverse communities that help them fairly smoking and that they might communicate approximately their problems besides. i'm relatively sorry for all of the soreness you have long previous via and that i wish this permits. shop shifting foward and that i'm specific your son will start up progressing.
2016-10-02 09:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As parents we always want what is best for our kids. Unfortunately they dont see it that way.
Let him learn the hard way and then when all is said and done, be there for him.
As for kicking your pregnant daughter, well that is a matter for the police and you should let them know that a terroristic threat of harm has been made to her and if you really feel that she will do it, then let them know that its real and not just because you dont like the young girl.
They can help you with what you need to do to keep her away from the daughter and yourselves till she is no longer violent to you.
I wish you all luck....
2007-02-19 04:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once they hit this age you really can't control anything ecept what they do in your house (& sometimes not even that). Stand solid on the crazy girl not being allowed there while letting your son know he is welcome anytime for any reason. Let him know he has your support even though you disapprove. This way when he realizes the mess he's in he will know he can still come to you for what ever he needs. Good luck. You have my best wishes.
2007-02-19 04:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Cricket 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not let that crazy girl anywhere close to you or your family. You made the right descision about not letting them move in with you. Your son knows what he is getting into so just let him do what he wants. He is 19 so you can't do much except be there for him when he realizes what he is doing and things go bad.
2007-02-19 04:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummmm if your son still lives with you you have the right to put your foot down and get a restraining order against this chick as she sounds like a fricking psycho---sleeping around, dunno who her babies daddy is etc... and she's only 19---jerry springer show here she comes and watch out---anyways, as being the parents of your son you too have the right to demand a paternity test as that child may or may not be your grandchild--sounds like it could belong to a million different men---geez----i would tell your son that if he chooses to be with this girl then he needs to move out---take away all that you have given him in that house and boot him out---i know this sounds rough but he is crazy to take the road and stay with the psycho----he is unfortunately 19 and is an adult and can do technically what he wishes---but, is he lives under your roof you have the ultimate control of him and what you as preants say goes or else he can move out
i am soooo sorry he chooses to be with such a psycho---get a restraining order against this girl and get a dna test on the baby
2007-02-19 04:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Bailey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the key thing here is that he is 19.
It's his life, you got to spend the first 18-19 years trying to shape his values.
Just be willing to help him pick the pieces up after the mess clears.
2007-02-19 04:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by paul_p_25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That girl has mental issues obviously. Maybe you can go to some sort of therapy or conceling with your son first then try to bring in the girl and make him see she isn't good at all for him and she needs help.
2007-02-19 04:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋