What would you do if a friend poured water on an expensive camera and rare comic books on purpose?

Question

One night my longtime buddy showed up at the door and wanted me to accompany him to a bar. I said I was not feeling like going out that night so asked him to have a seat and went to the restroom. After I came out of the restroom he acted disappointed and left. Next morning I found water all over my camera and a pile of comic books. When I asked him he said he had no idea what I was talking about. What would you do in this situation. Nobody else entered the room that night and I had just checked the shelf that evening before he came. I know this fellow for twenty years.

Answer 1

You have all the proof you need. You probably can't recover your loss from him, but by all means start backing away from this guy. These deceivers are very subtle, but the signs are usually there. From your description of what happened, I'm sensing an envious individual who resents you for your accomplishments and your reserve. His resentment runs deep and, no doubt, he was seething when you turned down his invitation.

In the past, you may have made excuses for him, but rest assured that this guy is not--repeat--NOT your friend. Push him back as far as possible, until he's out of your life. In the interim, keep him away from any of your cherished belongings. It's surprising that none of your other acquaintances have spotted this guy. He's quite transparent.

Answer 2

If u know yr friend for 20 years, u should be fairly aware of his temperament. If u feel that he is such a fella that he could pour water on yr camera etc, then one day he can harm u physically too. so there is no point in continuing friendship with him; but if u think that he is not a man of such nature as to react so badly just because showed your unwillingness to accompany him, then u forget the loss, because a friend is afterall a friend if he really is. There is nothing more valueable than a friend.

Answer 3

Its obvious he must have done it but without proof theres no point treying to do anything about it. The best thing is to distance yourself from him, he doesnt sound like the greatest mate, and to be honest that kind of irrational behaviour is very odd, I wonder whether he has a drinking problem? The fact that he called by just to go to a bar, and was aggressive (even passively, i.e. to objects) when you refused,that sounds like it could be a problem.
Obviously, i never met him so cant say, but its worth keeping an eye on.

Answer 4

Superman because of his moral nature, i mean alot of people would say he is too perfect, but hes not, yeah he has so many amazing powers, but if you think about it, why does he spend nearly all his time taking care of others, i mean he could have anything in the world and yet he takes the role of everyone's' protector. Also i feel like i can relate to him on the side of loneliness.

Answer 5

You can't prove that he did it, so you can't accuse him. He could have done it, but he could have NOT done it, as well. If you really think he did it, I would talk to him. Ask him one more time and give him your reasoning for accuse him. If he denies it and your gut still feels unneasy, you may have to sever this relationships. Dishonesty and maliciousness have no place in friendship. However, since you have been friends for 20 years, I would hope that a relationship is stronger than material things.

Answer 6

If you've known him for 20 years, you know if he's capable of doing something like that. If he is capable and you strongly feel as though he did it intentionally and it wasn't an accident, I'd have to ex him as a friend. Real friends wouldn't do something like that.

Answer 7

Look up body language on the internet and then ask him if he did again. If you don't have proof you can't blame...Although your instincts are always right. I would still be his friend..has he done anything like this in the past?

Answer 8

well first if i was u i would get proof before i blame my friend of 20 years of during somethin like that . but look for some clues that might make 'em do sumthing like that , like was they drunk that night and wasnt aware of their actions, or his they upset cause someone important was going to be there and u didnt want to come with, who knows. but always have proof before u acuse someone of doing something.

Answer 9

How do you know it was on purpose? If you've known this guy for 20 years, I doubt you wanting to stay in would send him into a rage and distruct your things.

Answer 10

if already something has happened like this , then you are the one who is thinking his as a best friend and he is not ,else you can forgive him and also warn him