2007-02-19 04:01:40 · 14 answers · asked by ros 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was married to her in 1981 n lasted for a yr, no kids n she married wih 1 16 yrs girl. are they making up for the lost time...who know huh.
2007-02-19 06:54:48 · update #1
I would remind them "out with the old and in with the new". I'm not a jealous person but I would find it hard NOT to feel intimidated by this. Talking that much would have to stop.
2007-02-19 04:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they share kids or a house or something major together why is it necessary for your spouse to be talking to his/her ex? Isn't that what he/she married you for? What are you invisible chopped liver?
My husband has remained on good terms with his ex-wife because they have 3 kids. She calls from time to time to discuss something about one of the kids. He calls her to discuss business about the kids. I have never known their phone conversations to last longer than 5, 10 minutes tops. And this is only if one has something to ask or tell the other. Not everyday and not for hours on end.
You need to have a serious chat with said spouse. Tell him/her how you feel about all the hours spent on the phone. Tell him/her you have a lot to contribute to a conversation but how will he/she ever know if they spend all their time on the phone with someone who is supposed to be in their past?
Tell him/her he/she has a couple of options: Spend time getting to know what an interesting and enlightening person you really are OR go move in with whoever this is he/she loves to talk to and stop running up the phone bill! Good luck
2007-02-19 12:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that multiple times a day is excessive (unless there is emergency or really important information - like "don't forget, Bobby has ___ assignment due, his teacher just told me)
Otherwise,Your spouse should be told that it upsets you to see them talking to the ex(s) so much, and they should be able to either combine everything that they want to say into one phonecall, or in email. Your feelings should come first (except, like I said, the information is new and urgent). The ex(s) need to be able to respect that fact that they no longer have a relationship your spouse (other then through children).
2007-02-19 12:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by hellolacey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think under any circumstances that is extreme. I think if they have an ex with whom they've had kids then the calls should be limited to talking about the children. Anything other than that just seems inappropriate. Tell them to let their ex go and get over it or they will have another ex soon....
2007-02-19 12:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I understand most of the "rules" of being married, but ...do you have to give up your own life completely and totally when you get married? That's kinda like slavery. I wouldn't want someone telling me who I couldn't talk to. Apparently you and he have nothing interesting to talk about so he talks to the ex instead.
Why do people keep getting married? It never works. Spouses are a pain in the gizzard. I'll never do it again, that's for sure.
2007-02-19 12:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to open up the lines of communication to find out why your spouse feels the need to talk to exs. If you trust your spouse, and you guys have a solid relationship, then you shouldn't have a problem. I'd try to get your spouse to see how they felt if you did the same. Good luck.
2007-02-19 12:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Off with his head. Well, off with both his heads.
This is not normal, you understand?
Even if they share a child or children, they are no longer together, he is your husband, and you need to get to the bottom of this. What is the source of all this chatter and what is the reason for it. Feel free to call her yourself and inform her that you are well aware of this and take this as an insult, you will not stand quietly by. You need to take action now, and do not accept vague excuses at all, this has to stop immediately.
2007-02-19 12:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd consider a serious talk with the Spouse with Divorce in mind, bcuz the Spouse shouldn't be wanting to spend more time talking to EX-Wives than being around you!
If he doesn't comply, break up with him! You don't want to be "second-best!"
2007-02-19 12:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by julesrules 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and put your foot down. This woman still has some type of hold over him....which the reason HE lets her call 6 or 7x a day. My b/f and i went through the same thing with his baby mamma...i talked to her myself. and told her there was no reason for her to call all times of the day...talking and ranting about NOTHING. Turns out she was jealous he moved on, even though she didnt want him..she wanted him to suffer. Be a good woman and stand besides him, but you need to put your foot down. and set BOTH of them straight. and if you cant do it....know she will keep calling.
2007-02-19 13:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a kid involved if there is maybe it is normal. My fiance talks to his daughter's mom like twice a day over her not anything else but i think they are still friends. Especially they talk more now because she is 12 going on 30
2007-02-19 14:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋