My girlfriend recently broke up with me, and because we were friends first we decided to remain friends. Whenever i talk to her i feel great but as soon as I am done talking or hanging out with her i feel really crappy. She has been through a lot (multiple brain surgeries) and I was there to help her through her depression. She recently told me that she "Felt weird" when we hung out. Is it stupid to try to remain friends with her if It only makes me feel crappy. There is nothing i want more than to remain friends with her but I still have feelings for her and I know that if i dont talk to her i will feel even worse than i do now. please help. To put it simply.. I feel great when i hang out with her or talk to her.. but when i dont i feel like crap. My problem is i dont need to be in a relationship where i am the only one working on the friendship.
2007-02-19 03:54:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to have time away from this girl. A friendship will never work with her whilst you still have feelings towards her. You should take some time out from the frienship, hang out with your other friernds etc, and once you are happier in yourself and gotten over the relationship you can then be friends with her again. Im not saying you can never be friends, but you need to get your head straight first or else you will stay unhappy every time you see her. Distance does wonders for getting over someone, she probably "feel wierd" because she knows you still like her and doesnt reciprocate.
Spend some time away from her to fully get over it, you wont whilst your constantly in touch with her. You sound like a really supportive, nice boyfriend, and will be again to someone else.
2007-02-19 04:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remaining friends is okay if you don't have to feel depressed after you talk to her or hang out with her. It seems like you have always been with her through some tough times, but maybe it's best to get on with your life, and feel good about things again. Feeling depressed all the time is not good for you either. It takes two to make a friendship work.
2007-02-19 04:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by awr1956 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be a great friend.maybe your friend is confused by the fact she cares for you and does not know if only being friends is an option.it is hard to let go when you have loved someone but it may be for the best only you know the answer to that.you need to get out there and meet some new people are maybe you are not as close to other friends or family as you could be.maybe they need you to be more of a part of their lives .you must think of yourself too if it means more to you than it does her to remain a part of each others lives then it may be better to remember her fondly .dont torture yourself sometimes things work out different than we imagined,you will be fine.good luck to you.
2007-02-19 04:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the help of the emo and gothic assertion i'll anticipate you're incredibly youthful and melancholy is so difficulty-loose at that age(babies or early 20s) which you would be weird and wonderful in case you probably did no longer experience it. I cried consistently at that age and dealt with melancholy for years after that. I under no circumstances chosen drugs, yet I prayed alot. I under no circumstances felt suicidal to the element i might act on it, yet I advise in case you do then you could consult with somebody and get drugs in case you like it to be chuffed.countless the time those issues will bypass away.make confident to no longer feed your melancholy with difficulty.attempt takingyour strategies off of issues once you could.
2016-09-29 08:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's normal to feel depressed because you have become dependent on your relationship to make you happy. its too early right now to be friends, you need time to let go of the emotional attachment you have built with her. She has other people she can turn to, but you need your time away before you can continue a friendship.
2007-02-19 04:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you helped her through brain surgeries and depression, and she dumped you, and you feel crappy about it, then jsut don't be friends with her. She obviously didn't appreciate how much you felt for her, and what you did for her. So just let her go, she's not worth it.
2007-02-19 03:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by The PUNK Goddesssss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may be hard to remain friends. If its making both of you more miserable I suggest you part ways.
2007-02-19 03:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur like seriously my identical twin
my ex gf broke up with me but we were like best friends b4 we started goin out now shs just kinda s just like w/e but if shes is being really nice and when im with her i feel awesome so like i wanna say i think its better if were not friends any more but every time i see her i just like cnt do it
so honestly you gotta try and tell her not to be friends with you or just live with it like i am
2007-02-19 04:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So tell her this & go to work on your relationship together. She probably loves you too ya know.
2007-02-19 04:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with a friend, parent or try a counseler.
2007-02-19 03:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋