You see she divorced him,but she still has to go to court to make it final. I really like her, and my feeling for her are stong. If I get involved with her now, well shes still techincally married. What can I do, I really like her, and I dont know how I can keep these feelings bottled up for much longer?
2007-02-19 03:54:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's filed for divorce. It's not like asking her out would be ruining her marriage. Most people don't wait for their divorces to be final to start seeing someone else, so get on with it. If you keep stalling she may accept someone Else's offer.
Take it slow at first. become friends and find out how she feels about moving on with relationships before you dive in head first. She may need time and the support of a man friend that isn't trying to nail her.
If you really feel this strongly about her, but she insists on waiting till the divorce is final, after you approach her with your intentions, then agree to wait for her and don't push things till after court. You'll gain a lot of respect and trust for that.
Good Luck :-)
2007-02-19 04:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moraly and legaly she is still married. And at any moment right up till the judge finalizes the divorce, thats the truth. Do you want to take the chance that you could be messin in a marriage that isn't really over. As an ex husband , I faught to save my marriage until the very last minute, My attitude towards the new boyfriend that showed up prior to the divorce being final was not very good. He was scared, and so should you be , dont be messin with another man's wife.
2007-02-19 04:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become friends and see if she feels the same way. if you both have strong feelings you can both wait until her divorce is final.
that doesnt mean you can't be friends..
that having been said. i had a horrible situation with this scenario... i had liked this woman for years and when she seperated from her husband she and i became closer but never romantic. the combination of emotions that rose from her divorce and the complexity of my feelings of being the "after guy" ended up ruining a possible realtionship and what was once a friendship as well..
not to be negative but its likely to not work out as she needs time to get back to being single before she can really be with someone else in the long term....
so.... be friends... dont be a doormat.... if you want to wait for her... do it, but dont push and dont expect anything...
when you expect stuff you are often let down. when things happen and you dont expect it.. its much more enjoyable.
2007-02-19 04:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by RainKing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On paper she is still married, but the more important issue here is mentally she is still married. She needs time to grieve the loss of her marriage. No matter what she says, it will take time to get over it. I would not move in on her too soon. Does she know how you feel about her? Has she shown any interest in wanting to become involved? I think it would be best to wait awhile, you do not want a rebound relationship, it will not work and you will end up with a broken heart.
2007-02-19 04:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The real question here, does she like you as well?
If you think that there is a chance for mutual affection between you, just take it slow for now, and offer her your friendship and support, other then that, you might encounter a resistance, not due to her marital status, but the fact that she may not be ready to jump into a serious relationship with anyone just yet. If you take your time and carefully test the situation, do not be pushy and be there for her as a friend, you earn time, and soon, when she is totally free, you can see where she stands with regards to you and your feelings.
2007-02-19 04:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contain yourself young man. You sound like a hound dog who smells a gal in heat..... Does she know you like her? Realize she isn't divorced yet....she may not want to get involved with even so much as having a coffee with another guy for awhile so back off. Your timing may be way out of line. If she has given you any indication that she is ready to MOVE on with her life, you might ask her out for coffee, but don't be expecting to kiss her or paw her. You seem aggressive......
2007-02-19 04:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically she's actually Legally Separated and this makes a big difference, if she was married still she'd be with him ... if she isn't and there is only the matter of a court date, by all means ask her out, but if the ex is still in the picture I would wait.
2007-02-19 03:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, she's married. Leave it alone. And even if the divorce becomes final tomorrow, keep in mind that she was one of two people that couldn't maintain a relationship...
If you think that it was all his fault, then you are being naive.
2007-02-19 04:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can write to her and avoid physical contact until she is divorced . If the divorce isn't final she is still married. Simple as that.
2007-02-19 04:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by Aunt Carol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My divorce was not finalized when I met my boyfriend, I met him three months after my husband left me. I was upset but went out on the date to prove to myself that I can still date. Well its safe to say it worked out, I still was upset and he understood. but if I were you I'd give her some time, if its over its over but she does need that space. Just be a friend and when she starts to show signs of moving on than tell her how you feel.
2007-02-19 04:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by linus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋