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2007-02-19 03:41:06 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you have EVERYTHING - you have the trust and the communication and everythinggg --- but dont have the laughter will it still work?
2007-02-19 03:56:57 · update #1
Communication so you dont keep things from one and another and you should be able to talk to your spouse about anything and vice versa
Trust it goes without saying if you dont have trust you dont have anything
Being a team, Wash dishes together, cook together, do things together so one person doesnt have to do everything.
Sensitivity so you both can be understanding about one anothers problems/issues basically anything
Breaking away from routine, routines can get boring its nice to spice up things once in a while
Lots of romance. Romance is a definitely a must!
Spending time together you cant let work and other things get in the way of spending quality time together
2007-02-19 03:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have the (almost) perfect husband. And we have the (almost) perfect relationship. For over 10 years now. We do so well because we believe God is the center of our marriage, and we pray over EVERY aspect of our relationship.
However, if you aren't christian, here's some other really good tips.
Argue. (A little argueing before coming to an agreement makes for a great make up scene! And also, even the greatest of relationships argue. It's only natural, within a certain extent.) Eventually meet in the middle of everything. Compramise. Let both parties win arguements equally. Be humble. Nobody knows everything! Romance! Guys like being romanced too!! Find out what makes your partner feel loved and respected. Find out what makes them feel bad, and DON'T DO THAT! Never take sucker punches to their ego's, no matter how bad the arguement. In all things you do and say, show love. Especially when it's hardest. And most importantly, when you forgive, FORGET! Don't bring it up later on! It's in the past, where it belongs, leave it there.
2007-02-19 12:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by mayomay7 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Commitment. There are tons of examples of couples who possess love, trust and all of the other things already mentioned but still fail. Why? Because sometimes life sucks. Sometimes life and relationships are hard and our society has determined that once a relationship becomes hard that it is time to get a new one. New relationships with all of the butterflies that go with it are fun........and most people will go that route only to find that after the initial excitement fades they are worse off than before. In order to be in a happy long lasting relationship there are 2 additional ingredients required beyond love, trust and the other items listed. 1. Make time for the relationship. Set aside special time without jobs, kids or family regularly or your relationship will wither. 2. Be committed. As long as both of you are willing to do number one then number 2 should be a given.
2007-02-19 12:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by David 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you and your partner. If you really love someone and want to be with them then there shouldn't be a problem. Every now and then though relationships hit a bumpy road and if you've lost the fun and laughter in the relationship you should try to get it back by doing the things that used to make the two of you laugh and build on that until you both find something in common again to have fun with.
2007-02-19 12:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would love to say yes, but when someone keeps looking for something wrong in a relationship they will probably find it. You talk about all the good things and then wonder if laughter will make it go away. You never even consider you may be part of the problem.
Foolish.
Marriages work when two people are devoted to each other. You seem devoted to finding fault. No wonder he don't laugh.
2007-02-19 12:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The biggest thing a couple can do to make a relationship work is compromise. If both of you are willing to give up a part of something to not only make the other happy, but to make sure that both of you are happy with the result of what it is that you are trying to figure out, you will both find that there is not as much anger towards the other for not getting your own way. It's amazing what giving in can do for a person, it shows the other that you are listening to what they want and need, and are willing to give in a little to make things work for both.
2007-02-19 11:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My good friend Pete who has been happily married to the same girl since right after highschool (that's 20 years okay 25) says that the secret to a happy longlasting relationship is definitely romance. Communication and respect and all that other stuff are great but he keeps his wife happy by always making her feel wanted and loved and throwing romantic jestures around like candy. I have to say I agree with him because once the romance dies a woman's heart goes with it.
2007-02-19 11:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by stephyhall 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Common values; communication-both ways. i.e. not only is it important to express your feelings, wants, and needs, but it is equally important to invite your partner to share his/hers and to sincerely listen and consider the other's. Mutual respect.
Additionally: trust, commitment and a sincere desire to please each other in all ways, within reason. Many people tend to "let themselves go" after they are married, which has ruined many a good relationship. Many people stop dating after they are married-big mistake!
One more-and this is a big one: Just as most people would not date or marry a person he/she is not physically attracted to, there is nothing about marriage that makes physical attraction less important than it was before the ceremony. It's important to keep yourself physically fit and healthy for the sake of a better and longer life, but also for the pleasure of your partner that you are commited to for a lifetime and who has committed himself/herself to you for a lifetime.
Okay, finally, never, ever take your partner and all that he/she does for you for granted! Gratitude is a very important part of a healthy, thriving relationship. Show it at every opportunity.
Oh, one more...no matter how bad the argument gets-don't do it in front of the kids and don't resort to name calling or otherwise insulting your partner. It's very disrespectful and can cause long-term, irreversible damage to the others feelings for you.
Okay, that's all I can think of off the top of my head. I hope it helps!
2007-02-19 12:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
putting the other person in the relationship first before yourself. Ability to compromise, to support the other - it's just not womens work (help with the laundry, dishes, housework). A women should be out in the yard with you (lpulling weeds, helping with the lawn). A relationship has to be all about helping the other person and doing it because you WANT to help. You should compliment each other!
2007-02-19 11:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust, similar outlook, respect, communication, sexual compatibility, putting the other person's needs before your own in all things, companionability, similar goals, an agreed upon "leader" in the marriage, fidelity and loyalty.
2007-02-19 12:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋