Anyone ever lose a good friend?

Question

My best friend was killed yesterday in an accident. I lost my grandpa and great grandma, but losing a friend is a complete different feeling. I was just wondering who else has ever been in this situation and what helped you to feel better?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry that you lost your best friend yesterday, it's painful I know. I'm also sorry for your loss with your grandparents. I know this is long, but I hope it will help you.

I lost my dad in 1973 to cancer and my mother in 2004 also to cancer.
Yes, I've lost a few good friends and all of them were so hard. I still feel sad when I think of their loss. I lost two good friends to motorcycle accidents, separate accidents. I also lost a couple of friends to cancer, those were equally devastating. And I've lost a few friends to suicides, horrible.

So as you can see I've had my fair share of losses in my life. I have gotten through it with time and remembering the love and friendships that we had. I know that I am a better person for having known all of them. I know that the world is a lesser place because they are gone, but they left their mark in this world through the people who's lives they touched.

No one can tell you how you should feel or that you should just get over it, you will feel better when your ready to feel better. The best thing that I can tell you is to talk about it and let your feelings out. Don't try to bottle them up inside as that never helps, cry if you need to cry. If you feel angry let that out too, it's all part of grieving.

Talk about them and the times that you spent together, remember the good times as those are the things that you need to hold on to. By remembering the good times you keep them alive in your memory and they are truly never too far away from you.

Remember that they are really in a better place. Yes, I do believe in God, I'm not ashamed to say so. Really they are in a better place. Remember that your friend wouldn't want you to be sad for him/her, because they are no longer hurting. They are just fine and probably watching over you.

Take your time and don't let any one tell you how you should feel. Your heart will heal when it its ready to do so. As I said remember the good times and all the fun that you both had, those memories will take you through a life time.

God Bless you, I know that he will se you through your sadness and that in time your heart will heal. Take care of your self.

Answer 2

Yes been in this situation about ever November, except for last. I've lost someone close to me every November since 2001, right around Thanksgiving day as well, and what made me feel better was not celebrating Thanksgiving with friends or family. I would go to the local shelter and help those who are less fortunate. Seeing the facial expressions of the people at the shelters cheered me up. I know its a little bit of the topic of your question, but its something that made me feel better.

Answer 3

Yes i have lost a best friend to a shooting. His best friend killed him. It was so hard bc a month later i lost my aunt and it seemed like nothing will get better and that it hit u all at once. But i eventually got better. It helps to think that they dont have to suffer in this world anymore. I know it is hard...trust me i know.But u need to think positive. And if u believe in heaven and hell that u will see them again. It also helps to talk about the pain that u feel with other friends of theres or ur parents...my mom and my other best friend helped me alot. I just thought about giving up, but i didnt. Just talk things out...thats the only advice i can give to u! it helped me a lil bit but the pain will ALWAYS be there, its something that willl never go away. Good luck and i am really sorry about losing ur friend. Take Care.

Answer 4

My Husband lost a good friend when he was growing up. When he told me about it a few years later when we meet he still cried and got very upset. I think losing a friend at a very you age is very sad because you feel like their life was cut short and that life kind of cheated them and all those around him from seeing where his life would had taken him.

I have also lost a few friends and it breaks your heart. It just takes time to get over that they are no longer here.

There will come a time when you think of them and remember the good and funny things that you shared.
And as corny as it sounds they are aways with you in your heart.
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Answer 5

My best friend and I had a big disagreement. And it interfered with our relationship. (I befriended a [very nice] woman she dispized, it's a long story, but treating this woman like crap simply for the sake of my best friends jealousy seemed wrong to me.) We stopped talking for several months. She got sick. I tried to come see her, but she wouldn't speak to me. Then she went into a coma. I went to see her in the hospital, and held her hand and cried. I told her I love her and that I'd give anything to make our relationship complete again. She died the next day. That was 8 months ago. I am still greeving in a way I've never experienced before. I see her everywhere, and think about her constantly. My only comfort is that I believe in heaven, and I believe she is there and knows what is in my heart, and forgives me for doing what I think was the right thing. I know I'll see her again one day, and I know we will again be best of friends.

I hope this helps you. And I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

Answer 6

I lost a good friend in a helicopter accident in 1998. We served in Korea together in the U.S. Army. He was young and bright. I mourned him, but I was also content that he died as part of a noble profession. You may not have that to rely on, but the point is there is always something meaningful to look to. The best thing you can do is to remember something wondeful about your friend. Honor that person the rest of your life by remembering that one thing... In time, you'll have happy thoughts, not just the torment that sadness thrusts upon you.

Answer 7

My friend had a friend that died in a car accident in the past week...What makes her feel better is just talking about it. It might Make her cry a little but it helps just to let it out. Though i didn't know the girl that died it does hurt me because my friends are sad and hurt

Answer 8

My best friend died when we decided we were going to be stupid and play outside during a hurricane. I used to have a lot of questions and I didn't know who to ask, it made me feel better when I realized that there weren't any answers to those questions, there's just life and sometimes life sucks but to help yourself feel better you have to talk about it. I don't know what else to say except that I'm sorry, I know how it feels to lose someone you care for. Talk to someone, it helps, at least it did for me.

Answer 9

My husband was the only person in my life who knew the real unvarnished me and loved me. He died almost 2 years ago and in my vulnerable moments i MISS HIM SO MUCH. I have a lot of family responsibility and I don't have his hypercontrolling nature compl;icating it and believe it or not that helps. Try to remember the reality. We tend to sanctify or demonize our lost loved ones, but the more difficult and more healthy way to remember is really. Your loved one had good and bad qualities, was both a positive and negative force in your life. Embrace the totality.

Answer 10

I'm sorry. Yes I have. What we did was get the rest of the group together and we shared all the happy times that we had with our friend. We laughed and cried and we were able to say goodbye to him in our way. He will always be remembered.