Can a man just pay a lump sum amount and his ex sign off on child support?

Question

My husband has a son with his ex wife. His son is 14 and my husband has 4 years of child support left to pay. He added it up and by the time he turns 18 in 4 years my husband will pay $22,000 more to his ex-wife for child support. Can my husband and I just pay her the $22,000 and she sign off on all future child support?

My husband has a great relationship with his son. He talks to him almost daily and he buys him gifts/ pays for him to visit us. He would still be in his sons life and have his son on his medical benefits, he just wants to get the whole weekly child support payments out of the way.

Are men allowed to pay child suport in one lump sum?

Hatem- he's not trying to "skip" his responsibility- he will pay everyothing that he normally would pay but in 1 lump sum.
Also, he isn't responsible for his son's college. After his son is 18 hee's done with everything EXCEPT his son will still be on his medical benefits until he is 21. If his son goes to college it is my husbands choice if he wants to pay for it. He isn't responsible to continue paying his ex for his son's college.

Answer 1

yes you can my friend did it.he was in fl. she in GA. he did it to be mean he paid her the amount in full/ this was done in the courts of course, it was funny because she was good for about two years then she ran out of money for the last 10!!! ha ha ha gave her what she wanted alright! SHE WENT OUT AND BOUGHT CARS AND TVS AND THINGS FOR HERSELF HA HA

Answer 2

Since child support is the right of the child, and is usually made payable and enforceable by an order of the court, this agreement will not be upheld as legally binding.

If he wants to put the $22000 in an account, and pay monthly out of that account, I'm sure that is his perogative. But $22,000 seems like an awfully solid number, and child support tends to fluctuate and can be adjusted up or down. Not to mention that there are considerations in most support orders or agreements for an extra year in case the child does not graduate from high school or has not graduated from high school by his 18th birthday.

Many child support orders also contain provisions mandating that one party maintain health and/or life insurance.

It's just not a workable or likely idea.

Answer 3

Hi. You are very confused about how child support works, in the first place. If the court ordered you to pay child support, then that is what you pay... you do NOT give your ex any extra money at all.. not for lunches, not for school clothes, nothing. The child support you pay is to help provide anything the child has in her custodial home with her mother, including school clothes. Child support is based on your wages and her personal wages, nothing more. Secondly, even though your ex married a wealthy man, he is not your daughter's biological father and therefore, has no financial responsibility to your daughter; however, he is out of line requesting you buy any clothing or lunches your daughter needs for school while she is in his home with her mother. By paying child support you are already taking care of that financial obligation. If you make $31,000 a year, there is no way you can provide the kind of lifestyle someone who makes three-quarters of a million dollars can. So you are worrying over something you can't change unless you win the lottery. Money doesn't make the man, but character does.

Answer 4

The courts will enforse monthly payments.
If he ever makes a 22K payment the court decides if it counts (been there on a check I wrote, since it didn't go through the court the debated it as a gift)

Put the 22K back and have have him pay the mommy support monthly.

All the system cares about is her mommy support, it doesn't care about the kids, or him or you ar any kids you have. Don't f with the system becasue mommy support is the only debt you can go to jail for in America. Stay well within the lines.

Answer 5

Nope, no state would allow that. What if the child decides to go to college? He may be paying child support for many many more years. There are several scenarios where the support would need to be adjusted through the court, illness, etc. If she accepted this offer, she would just be getting a lot of money and he would still have to pay child support.

MEN CANNOT "SKIP" THEIR RESPONSIBILITY TO A CHILD" period.

ETA: Hate to see the guy get screwed out of $22,000, just to find out he will still be obligated, I am sure he is a great guy,....and he is trying to avoid the ex, but, that is just not going to happen until the child is completely out of his "legal care". I suggest you check out your state statutes on child support obligations. Modification is always an option.

Answer 6

It would be best to check the laws in your state (because this would not be possible in every state) and discuss this with a lawyer. This way he won't end up paying her this money only to find out later that legally he still has to pay and this money was considered a "gift".

Answer 7

From what I understand it depends on whether the payments go directly to her or through the state. If it goes to her then she can sign a notarized "receipt" that the child support is paid. If it's though the state they will not except a lump sum because they would have to continue giving it to her in monthly payments.

Answer 8

NOPE, cant do it that way. why? because in most states the support will continue if the child goes to training school/college. also, there are many things that can happen in between that time period.

YUP, there is a cost of increase in Child Support every 2-4 years (new amount set by court), depending upon the states guidelines.

so the answer is NO.
no matter what he wants or his reasons, it cant be done that way.

hes just looking for a way to make it "go away", no matter how you word it.

DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html


REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm


CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 9

If your husband is just trying to streamline things, and stop writing and mailing checks every week, why not put the money into a bank account, and set up automatic payments? Tell him to check with his bank. Good luck.

Answer 10

She's the one who needs to accept the offer. I suppose it's worth a shot if it's that much of a nuisance.