I'm 16 year old and I'm bisexual and I don't want my parents to know. They are totaly against homosexaulity and they are super religious. My friends already know and they don't mind and they support me. I'm afraid my family will disown me. Should I tell them?
2007-02-19 02:48:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You've got a couple options. It all depends on how open and honest you want to be with your folks. If you want to be really close, then sit them down and do the whole coming out thing. Build up your confidence first and be prepared to be kicked out. If you kinda want some relationship with them, avoid talking about your love life when you can and if you're cornered say something that outs yourself. If you don't care if they know anything about you and want to get by without a fight, then lie and avoid telling them the truth until you're not dependent upon them.
2007-02-19 16:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might make it REALLY hard on yourself. Harder than you imagine. If you have a good support network, and you think, even if they DO disown you, that you have options to move out to somewhere stable... then... ok, you might tell them. If they are generally very supportive and loving aside from the two things you mention... ok as well. But know what you're getting into, potentially. I waited until I was mostly through college (and beyond the need for their financial help) before I told family.
2007-02-19 02:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by tb75 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would wait until you are completly financially independent from them. Once you're out of the house and living on your own there's not a whole lot they can do about it, though obviously it would still be really difficult emotionally if they decided to never talk to you again or something like that. Ultimatly you have to decide when it is right to tell them and use your best judgement I think.
2007-02-19 03:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Clueless 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're independent and can live on your own. I know it's hard but you're a minor and you still need your parent's financial support. If they are very religious then they might kick you out or completely neglect you. Right now, you're young and need to think clearly about these things. Just live you life and tell your parents when you are sure you won't need their financial support. Good luck.
2007-02-19 03:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by cynical 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait.you are to young and might change thus having hurt them would be useless.
get counseling! the important thing is is you are happy with who you are.i am sure when you are older and sure of what you really want-maybe you'll change and become a true lesbian or maybe you'll just want boys or maybe be like now,who knows!-you can tell i see no need now!just make sure you protect yourself sexually and that you keep studying and get a carreer that allows u to get a great job.you will need financial protection in case they realy do not want to see you!
act smart ,make the best choices.do not hurt your family if they must not know!
enjoy but be careful!
2007-02-19 03:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right to be against homosexuality and you should just realize that it is a faze that you will eventually get pass. If you were a bi-sexual boy then I would say your a homo and its over for you but since your a girl and this happens often these days with your age group, I know its just sexual experimenting. You might enjoy having sex with a women but you need a man and trying to have the best of both worlds will leave you with no real secure relationships. Don't tell your parents, that's stupid, are you trying to rub it in their faces when you know they don't like it? It will just get them angry.
2007-02-19 19:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
nooooooooooo
like others have said wait until u are independent at least financially free from them
b/c they could thro u out the minute u turn 18
then what will ya do?
once u r free of them then drop the bisexuality bomb
or maybe u'll get lucky and fall for a guy
who knows
and ignore the bible pushers please
you cant change who u r
2007-02-19 08:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by NemotheFish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you find that you are in love with another woman, I wouldn't tell your parents. It isn't lying to simply not tell some one something about yourself, unless they asked or something. If you tell them you are going to make life harder for yourself for no reason, telling them your bi might make you feel more honest with them, but they don't need to know unless it effects them in some way, such as your intending to have a relationship with a woman. Unless you can think of a really good reason to tell them, why would you bring it up?
2007-02-19 03:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by elvishbard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you are 18 or 19. This way, when they kick you out the house, you can still go and join the Army on your own.
2007-02-19 02:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should wait until you are able to support yourself financially before you tell them in case the worst should happen. Then you can say "That's me, take me or leave me."
2007-02-19 02:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kreen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋