My husband is a BIG time hunter...he goes hunting whenever he can, I mean he goes for a week hunting while i sit at home..NO he doesn't even ask if I mind..he just takes the money and goes? If he isn't on a HUNTING TRIP he is at Local BARS!
Gets off work at 4 and sometimes makes it home at 9-10 pm at night..NEVER misses a day of work either?
This married is ALL one sided....HIS! I'am unable to work due too BAD feet and can't walk long or stand long..so when he is gone on his trips or BAR things...I 'm AL:WAYS left here sitting! I COOK his meals which he NEVER is here too eat, and wash his clothes he passes out on couch,while I go too bed...then complains he gets NO SEX???
WHY should he.....?
HELP this is my 3rd marriage (3-1l2yrs) I've put up with all this..Oh yes..he buys me flowers and takes me too dinners as a SUCK up or PEACE offering ONLY!!
I would leave him right now ,right today but i have no where too go...NO PARENTS ,no where??? HELP PLEASE!
2007-02-19 02:19:14 · 10 answers · asked by Daisy-flower 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I would start by not cooking for him and not washing his clothes. He is emotionally neglecting you and not meeting your needs aside from the financial aspect. That is a very lonely way to live. I would suggest you try to make more friends and see if you can find a way to gain some sense of independence if at all possible. There's nothing worse than feeling like a caged animal. The fact that he sucks up to you when he's really bad is just adding fuel to the fire because you know he'll go right back to his usual routine. I would try to gain more control over finances so he doesn't have so much money to spend on bars and hunting...
2007-02-19 04:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to stash some money enough to get you a place to stay. Instead of buying good food for him to eat, keep it to set yourself to leave. This is a sad way to live in a marriage. Find some support groups that could help you also. YOu CAn do it. If you own the house,then at least you have 1/2 of that to look forward to recieving when it is sold or he has to give you some money to get out of this marriage. You will need to find some kind of job that you could probably do at home or on the computer. Some way to support yourself. Good luck and do something to help yourself!
2007-02-19 02:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Third marriage? Sounds like you know how to pick them. Yikes. Sounds like you're headed for a fourth divorce. My advice is to sit him down if you can and tell him what's on your heart and then make your choice by what he says or does. He sounds like an alchoholic, and that won't change unless he chooses to change it. My advice to you if you happen to leave is to stay away from men until you can figure out why you gravitate to losers. Seek some counseling for your own issues, because honey if you are on a third marriage there must be some! Seriously, probably nothing you want to hear, but everything you need to hear. Get help!
2007-02-19 02:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd confront him on what he did very last evening and the following what he has to assert. do not interrupt him enable him end telling you. Then say that you heard all conversations about him and his associates and being @ the bar. Your husband is searching for difficulty through mendacity to you about the evening. i'd say your marriage is treading on skinny ice. in case you do not have believe you've not a lot of a wedding ceremony. supply your husband the ultimatum of straighting out and being honest with you or go away the domicile. do not submit with this dishonesty out of your better 0.5. Cocoa
2016-12-04 09:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3rd marriage. Look at who is your shoes.
Bet you knew he did all these things when you got married, do you work, have kids. I mean no offence -- but the picking are pretty slim when you already been married twice.
Me thinks after marriage two that if he goes to work and don't beat you you are not doeing bad. Maybe if you gave he some sex then useing it a punishment he'd hang around more.
2007-02-19 02:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set an example for your children. Get out of this relationship and work on your relationship with your children. There are ways to get help, welfare isn't meant to be forever! Use it to get out on your own get on your feet and get your life together. Set an example for your children. That you are a strong, woman and you can do it on your own. You don't need a swingin' pen** to be a complete woman. Get out and stand up for yourself.
2007-02-19 02:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man should be single because he certainly acts like he is. My husband can't get home fast enough...if yours wants to do anything but be with you -- do him a favor and divorce him. Then you'll both be happy.
2007-02-19 02:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a alcoholic.
But like Doctor Laura says if all you do is bit*ch at him why should he want to come home. Was it like this from day one?
Ask yourself what has changed.
2007-02-19 02:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray....
2007-02-19 02:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone better.
2007-02-19 02:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋