My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and i still have doubts on whether i trust him? Its just that his previous relationship he cheated alot but says that this is differant and that he would never do that to me! He does treat me really well and alot better then he treated her! Am i being paranoid?
2007-02-19 02:11:01 · 24 answers · asked by Donna L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
people change. give him the benefit of doubt.
2007-02-19 02:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think u should try 2 keep those rose coloured glasses off, trust me i left them on and was made a laughing stock. Look 4 signs but if u get 2 preoccupied doing that u may end up destroying the relationship anyway, its a tricky question. Just stay aware of the fact that the trust issue is a very large 1 and might have 2 deal with some of ur own insecurities. good luck
2007-02-19 03:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by amnea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My lover has cheated on every girlfriend that he's ever had or at least most of them, but that doesn't mean much to me. I believe our relationship is more than the teenage garbage that he went through in the past. I also know him a lot better and he himself now. We have a serious relationship. I trust him. Without trust, what is a relationship? Once a cheater always cheater goes for once a cheater on you, always a cheater on you. If he cheated on other women, there's a reason for it and it doesn't necessarily have to do with you. I believe that he's never once cheated on me. Trust and honesty, I don't think he would have told you he cheated on his ex if he was planning to cheat on you. He may have told you his tricks. Give the respect of being honest. Good luck!
2007-02-19 02:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 schools of thought - one says once a cheater, always a cheater, the other is that immature people settle down and can eventaully do the right thing.
I had a female friend who cheated on every boyfriend she ever had. She got married 3 years ago and has been faithful to that guy since they started dating.
2007-02-19 02:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are simply worried that the past may repeat itself. Take each day at a time and don't worry yourself with the future too much. If you get caught up in worrying about whether he will, you lose sight of the relationship you have and may ensure that he will. Keep an eye out for the signs and build a solid foundation of trust and communication with him.
2007-02-19 02:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cant say you are being paranoid because if I were in your shoes, I wouls be the same.
I know this is harsh, but once a cheater is always a cheater!!! If he could cheat on another girl, lets be honest, what makes you so different that history wont repeat itself?
If somebody like Sienna Miller cant stop her man from going off with their nanny, what chance do the rest of us have?
2007-02-19 02:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most people say once a dog always a dog but I beg to differ, a lot of people change specially when they find a person they care for. If you have no proof of him cheating, give him the benefit of a doubt.
2007-02-19 02:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ladybird 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whilst he by surprise has issues to try this he under no circumstances had to do until eventually now...whilst he avoids your calls, or isn't there to take them, if his strategies-set in the direction of you is changing, if he tells you he "in basic terms needs some ME time" in case you reside mutually a number of those are signs and indications too... a million. decrease desire to be with you sexually. 2. by surprise tries new sexual positions. 3. working previous due extra usually. 4. Mysterious telephone calls. 5. gets indignant once you seem on the cellular telephone, pager, or pc. Is secretive of such. 6. smell of fragrance on their clothing. 7. Takes a tub as quickly as he comes living house. 8. you come across hairs or different gadgets on his physique or in his possessions. 9. starts taking extra care along with his visual attraction. 10. Accuses you of cheating. 11. he differences his widely used ordinary devoid of reason or reason.
2016-09-29 07:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships should be built on trust.
You have no trust in this fella because he cheated on his previous girlfriend. I understand your distrust.
How do you know he wont cheat on you? you don't know. This will eat away at you and it wont make any difference what he says. You don't trust him. And with no trust what is there????
2007-02-19 02:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know how well he treated her. If he keeps you happy then don't question it until things become questionable. But remember you can always dye your hair but it's only a matter of time before the roots start to show.
2007-02-19 02:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat.
2007-02-19 09:21:40 · answer #11 · answered by Noadonis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋