the older woman or man or the younger man or woman?
but my opinion,(tony)i agree on equal partnership.
2007-02-19 02:05:57 · 20 answers · asked by tony21_and_steve17 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
rule 1:we are a gay couple
rule 2: 'who wears the trousers' is a saying be everyone i(tony)never gave up with it.so dont assume i am judging other gay people.
2007-02-19 02:14:28 · update #1
the taxman-why the older one partner?
2007-02-19 02:16:18 · update #2
i hear what you're all saying.its just something me and steve have been debating for a few days out of boredem.
2007-02-19 02:25:02 · update #3
tony pretends to be the one in charge.but its really me. :)
2007-02-19 05:20:47 · update #4
nobody is the boss our relationship, its a partnership - we share everything. we love each other, we trust each other, we are one item, we share the boring tasks like shopping or washing up. he is my best friend, my brother and lover all in one.... that is six days a week but on a thursday ... its kinky night and i like to be punished, thats the only time when he squeezes into his lycra pants ;-)
2007-02-19 05:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the starting up who's the help we gve using. Secondly the three hundred and sixty 5 days is 2012 no longer 1912 and per chance William does no longer consider the way the Royals take priority over each and every holiday to the exclusion of the households they marry into. Thirdly, Kate isn't very robust at the moment and so it grow to be more beneficial advantageous for her stay close to to her health practitioner. They went on Boxing Day to his kinfolk. Like infinite different couples throughout the country.
2016-12-04 09:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no general rule based on age. It will usually be the person with the more demanding personality.. asks/seeks what they want more directly. Both people should make sure (if such a thing is possible) they're equally in love. And both should demand respect. If either of those 2 things are not the case, the person LESS in love is going to have the upper hand. Therefore, they'll probably wear the pants, as it were.
2007-02-19 02:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by tb75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person, there doesn't have to be any one person 'wearing the trousers' just because they're in a same sex relationship - thats a bit judgemental of you. Thats like saying who's the giver in a gay (male) relationship. Personal preference and trouser wearing have no relevance to the type of relationship - many couples be they m/f m/m f/f are all the same initially. One likes the other. End of story.
2007-02-19 02:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tony
I think that it's best to avoid making assumptions about anyone's relationships. Not least for the fact that many of the assumptions pander to traditional stereotypes, which are not necessarily helpful or, indeed, accurate. The best relationships, same sex or otherwise, are based on healthy mutual respect. Some people seem to spend so much time on asking gay men in particular, which of you is the male and which is the female? How absurd and outdated is that sort of thinking?
Best wishes, J
2007-02-19 02:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by sirjulian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting topic, but you can't possibly condense it down like that. In most relationships, homo or hetero it is down to personality type - many people naturally seek out the yin to their yang as it were. I believe that in a successful relationship your strengths should compliment one another, for example if one person is naturally quite anxious it's helpful for them to have a partner who is quite stable and dependable. This stability may have come about through parenthood or even just being an older sibling so age doesn't come into it.
A really good book to help explain different personality types, how they come about and what might work best is Families And How To Survive Them by John Cleese and another really good author whose name escapes me. Explains it a lot better than I have!
2007-02-19 02:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by tigerfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well we're a lesbian couple and have been together 9 years,neither one of us wears the trousers as they say,we're both on equal footing,everything decision etc is made by both of us.Neither one of us is the more dominant or submissive whether it be in everyday life/household stuff,raising our child or in the bedroom. A lot of people like to assume that isn't true judging by our appearance (she looks butcher than I do) and based on the fact she is older than me,but in reality it's not true.A lot of straights like to assume one is butch/dom the other sub. but that's based on their lack of knowledge and maybe they were raised in a household where the roles were clear cut and out-dated? I get sick of straights asking this question and then not believin the answer they get.
2007-02-19 02:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes the same sex relationships qualify for a "who wears the pants" - syndrome. In any relationship for it to have a chance of working you have to have a mutual understanding that 'talk - discussion' is the prime factor and a agreements be made upon your findings.
2007-02-19 05:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is simply no hard and fast rule on this, each couple will work out their roles themselves. Some will have one person more dominant and one person more submissive, but many couples will share the 'balance of power' and be more equal.
On a personal level, my partner and I consider ourselves equals in our relationship.
2007-02-19 02:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older one as a rule.
2007-02-19 02:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋