He often gets upset when officials aren't calling fouls or when they are making wrong calls... He wants to do his best and he is usually a good team leader - but his temper sometimes gets the better of him.
2007-02-19 01:31:14 · 6 answers · asked by Earl'smom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
1. Tell him that emotional outbursts can be and probably are detrimental to his performance. Tell him to put the emotion into his gameplay (effort, determination, etc.)
2. Tell him that emotional outbursts can get him in trouble both with the refs and with the coach. If he is prevented from playing, then he can't have the things that he loves about playing: competition, physical activity, demonstration of skill, and so on.
Make a deal with him: ask him to try playing with a "cool head" for at least half the season. While doing so, ask him to notice whether he increases his awareness, focus, and level of performance and whether he gets into less trouble. He can be a very good player with more focus on the game and his own performance.
Bad calls are part of any refereed game, and both sides are at risk of getting bad calls. He should play the best he can to try to minimize the bad calls, but he should realize that bad calls happen.
2007-02-19 01:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by RolloverResistance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that no one is a perfect judge of a situation. Maybe a ref isn't judging a situation correctly but then, if that can be true, maybe your son isn't judging the situation of the ref's decision correctly either! There's no 'smarter' person, just people viewing from different points. If he stops thinking he's smarter than the ref, he'll enjoy the game a lot more. After all, there are plenty of people around, on the sidelines and in the stands. Does he really think he has the burden of reacting to injustice? Tell him to let consenus decide instead of him deciding.
2007-02-22 11:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to learn good sportsmanship. If he can't be a good loser as well as a winner, then, he shouldn't be allowed to play. Talk to your son's coach about this. Maybe he has some suggestions on this matter. Or is the coach exhibiting the same behaviors and your son is modeling him? If your son continues to lose his temper during games, then, he should sit out whenever he loses control. Maybe that will help him control his outbursts.
2007-02-19 10:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play him a video of some great athletes in any sport (best if from the same sport as your kid).
But really great ones, where he'll clearly see how calm (but still excellent) and great the really great ones are.
2007-02-19 09:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by tomes12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is mimiking what he has seen/heard from adults in the stands and now he thinks he can do it too. I would catch it on the video camera and show him later.
2007-02-19 10:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by jjhull03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he dont control himself ,you not letting him participate in it anymore.and try explaining to him that bad sportsman ship is not good.Winning isnt everything
2007-02-19 09:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋