is this over?

Question

me and boyfriend has been living together for a whole year, we're from diffrent countries and have diffrent culutures .Unluckily he doesn't like my family and hates to spend holidays with them.
Worst thing is I'm older than him and usually I look after him lot, he told me he felt like being treated like a kid, most of the times he does act like a kid though,childish, jumpy and responsible.
We didn't spend valentine's day this year, and now we're together on holiday, he told me he would make it up to me by giving me a suprise, and I can see he was trying very hard to get along with my family, I think everything is gonna work out. But just today he told me he cannot live with me anymore, he want freedom and do whatever he wants to do, he doesn't want anybody to know he's at when he's out.He said he is only 23 but feels like a grandpa. He suggest we live sperately for a certain time until he sees our future of marriage and having kids. I feel really bad and upset now, what I shall do?

Answer 1

Evelyn...i know its hard but my advice is let him do just that.....if u try to stop him in any way u will only end up pushing him further away...give him the space he needs ...who knows mebbe by letting him move out on his own he will grow a little ... he is still young ... please try not to feel hurt or down everything happens for a reason who knws this cud all turn out real well for the both of u...keep ur chin up and encourage him to fullfill whatever it is he feels he has to do and let him know ull b there for him no matter what....offer him friendship and support....i wish u all the best and may u find ur inner strength to hold ur head up....

Answer 2

Basically I would say your relationship is over. He's not giving the support you need and is only thinking about himself. There isn't any sort of commitment from him that I can see. He wants his freedom to see who ever he pleases. When he won't even except your family this is totally wrong on his part. If he thought anything of you he would be there for you no matter what. It looks as though you have wasted a year of your time on him. This is not true LOVE! Do yourself a favour and forget about him. Move on with your life and find someone who really cares for you. Life is too short to be in a one sided relationship. Hope this helps you. Cocoa

Answer 3

Be glad. He's not ready for marriage, and he was honest with you. Be glad that he was man enough to tell you. Lots of guys are too cowardly to admit what he did, get married without really wanting to, have kids that they're not ready for, and make a big mess not only out of their own lives but everyone else's too. Be glad for what you had and let him go. He's not finished growing yet, and to be completely honest: if he doesn't love your family, your relationship will never really work out.

Answer 4

Live apart, wait awhile see how things go. It's not over yet, but maybe you were moving things along to fast. Let him grow up.

Answer 5

He's too young and immature to be in a committed relationship. Let him go and find someone closer to your own age/level of maturity.

Answer 6

Let him go, you will alway find someone else, he is too imature and it also sounds like he wants to be on his own and meet new people..

Answer 7

let the kid go and grow up. its not your problem that its not working out but you have really given it all your energies. stop stressing and let go

Answer 8

dump his butt. you don't have to raise a child to have a child. he's an adult (at least in age), treat him like one. don't let him get away with acting like a kid.

Answer 9

let him go,but don't sit around waiting for him,continue with your life and if he decides he wants to come back,see how you feel then,maybe you won't want him back
goodluck

Answer 10

You're suffocating him. Let that child go.