Me and my boyfriend had been together for 5 months and we were ready for sex. but la couple fridays ago when he came round and we had planned it for quite a while he put the condom on and tried puttin it into me but he couldnt. he didnt admit to it to my face but he text me later saying he thought i was 'tight'. i kno wat this means but how can i get rid of this problem.? later on we had an argument.. and i finished with him. he says hes not harsh so he wouldnt tell anybody about me but he has told some of my friends and then they have told other people and now i think everybody secretly knows. i hate him grr lol. but i need to know how to get me out of this situation i want to have sex. any ideas??
2007-02-19 01:30:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hmm it doesnt necessarily mean you were tight it might just be a) that you were not lubricated enough or b) that because it was the first time and you may have been nervous that you were all tense.
To be honest i dont think there is anything you can do to solve it short of stretching yourself which please dont even try.
Just find a guy that you fit better with ad ignore your ex he seems a bit of a tool
2007-02-19 01:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sass 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is just so pathetic (of him NOT you)
When you want to have sex with someone, if there is sufficent foreplay you're body will be relaxed enough to have sex no matter what size the guy is
Maybe you were tense, nervous? Which would be totally natural given that this was to be your first time
This guy is totally immature you are better off without him, i remember the first time i succeeeded in having sex after 2 disastrous attempts we gave up for a while and enjoyed everything but sex together until one night it just happened, it sounds like you were both under pressure to have a "perfect" night and for one reason or another it didn't work, that's not an excuse to give up, its a reason to spend more time on foreplay and making each other feel relaxed, not a reason 2 run off telling everyone else about it, what an idiot!
2007-02-19 09:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by angel31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly !as you get older you may learn from partners that the tighter you are ,the more a man will usually enjoy intercourse with you. But i think the truth in your case is that you were not lubricated enough.The foreplay (the playing around or stimulating each others sexual parts )is what causes you to become wet down below.This is natural lubrication.Also the muscles in your vagina would have been more relaxed and not so tight.You will find that if your ex had stimulated you enough, you would have been wet enough,and very ready for intercourse.So the jokes on him obviously for being inexperienced or selfish.BUT 2 wrongs dont make a right so this doesnt mean go out and tell all his freinds just because he did.your bigger and better than that.
SO GOOD LOOK NEXT TIME>and dont forget to protect yourself and remember sex is somthing you share with someone who you feel is special enough to deserve you giving yourself to them.
2007-02-19 10:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u a virgin? if yes, then there is nothing 2 worry about. D guy is a wuss, are u tight or he cant get it up? dont be in such a hurry 2 have sex, the perfect time and guy will come 4 u 2 and u wont be tight when the timing and guy is right, trust me!
2007-02-19 09:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cleopatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that doesnt mean your tight just that you may not have had enough foreplay so you werent lubricated enough.
i wouldnt worry what others think just blame it on your bf and say he's crap
and dont rush into sex make sure your definatly ready and with the right person
2007-02-19 10:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's crap at it. Bottom line. You wouldn't be tight if he'd spent enough time on foreplay.
You do not have a problem, apart from your boyfriend.
If you want to see if you have an issue, buy yourself a vibrator and see if that goes inside after you are aroused. bet it does!
Tell him to get his head between your legs and not to come up for air for a good 20 minutes!
2007-02-19 09:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not your fault.its his duty to make u feel relaxed n lubricate it before he penetrate.for girls it will be tighten if u don't have regularly or have it for the first time.but it should be the guys who should have patient and do it nicely and gently.but for his case i think he is just to excited or inexperienced.that's why he toked like that to u .but u don't bother about him.next time when you get a better person i hope he will know hw to satisfy u....
2007-02-19 10:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by pinky_noor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey lady if your boyfriend was any good in bed and had taken the time to get you aroused properly and ready for sex he would have had no problem in penetrating you.
Forget this loser, it is not your fault he was usless, you will find someone who will take the time and care to make sure you are ready for penetration.
DUMP HIM !!
2007-02-19 09:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by deardaveuk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what u need to do is get yourself a small toy like a pocket rocket pleasure yourself also try sum k y that will help it to slid right in once u start having sex it will loosen up good luck!
2007-02-19 09:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by natasha k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the problem lies with him, When the right man comes along for you believe me you will not have that problem
2007-02-19 11:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Janet C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋