Wife having affair with brother since my marrige (4 years)?

Question

I was really shocked/disturbed after came to know that, My wife is having an affair with my younger brother since my
marriage. he got a job and moved to my place but living close to my apartment. 4 months back we had a baby and my
wife and kid went to india 4 weeks ago. After she went, I know her chatting password and saw chatting conversation, she had

an affair with bro since the marriage. They have not used any protection and discussed about pregency and test results in

their chatting. Whenever she call to my office and she used to call to my brother (Per phone records). Some times, When I tried to sex with her, she used to say me ,not interested do masturbate yourself. I have been thinking about this every day since 3 weeks, almost drinking beers every day, sleeping for only 4 hours per day,
not concentrating my work at office. Initially I cried for week, decide to suicide my self , after 1 week decide to divorce her....still thinking What should I do now? Please help.

Answer 1

I really feel sorry for you. Take it slowly, as suggested by someone please take the printouts of chat conversation and also do a DNA test for your child and see if you are the father. Then confront your wife. See if you can reconcile and then of course the last resort divorce. These things happen and no one is at fault so dont blame yourself wasting ones life for such a thing is not worth it. Get a new life for yourself

Answer 2

I knew of a couple around this area that the same thing happened too, except no child conceived. He worked away from home, she at the hospital. He came off the road early due to illness and walked in on his wife and brother in bed together. He found out they had been lovers all throughout the marriage and divorced her. His brother wouldn't marry her either, saying if she would sleep around on her husband she would him too. This girl was a joke in the town, ruined her reputation with her co-workers and the only guys that would date her were married men. Her husband remarried a good girl and has 2 kids and very happy today. The brother moved away and seldom do we hear any thing about him. What I'm trying to tell you is you have everything to live for, a decent woman awaiting you somewhere and a new life, don't ruin it over someone not worthy of you.

Answer 3

You've been through a lot. And now it's time to move on. End your marriage. Should be no big deal, since the very basis of marriage is fidelity, and you two clearly don't have that, at least from her side. And unfortunately, my friend, you never will. The bottom line here is she is not happy with you for whatever reason or reasons she has. And she never will be. It's time to divorce and move on. I know that's difficult, especially with children involved. Stay close to them. Kids bounce. As long as they know Dad loves them and Mom loves them, it doesn't really matter what house you're living in, because you bring the love with you. And if you have second thoughts, think of this. Imagine yourself in a life where you come home from work and kiss your wife and she kisses you back, and she tells you how much she loves you, and she means it. Imagine having complete, unwavering faith, trust, and comfort in the person you come home to every night. Won't that be nice? And you deserve it. But you won't get that with her. So now it's time to move on and go find the woman you are truly meant to be with. She's probably out there looking for you right now - she just hasn't found you yet. Good luck. :-)

Answer 4

God I feel for you. To be betrayed by 2 of the closes people in your life. They both deserve to rot in hell. Please seek help in the form of therapy and perhaps get on antidepressants to find a way of getting seratonin. You have major adjustment issues to cope with. I am so sorry this had to happen to you.

Answer 5

As the other fellow has advised - DIVORCE HER IMMEDIATELY but at the same time make print-out copies of her incriminating infidelity with your rotten brother and post them to her parents and family - so everyone knows what sort of a person she really is.
Also, STOP being so overwrought by her slutty behaviour - women like that are NOT WORTH GETTING UPSET ABOUT !

Answer 6

divorce her.