Okay i am 19 yrs old and married to my highschool sweetheart who is 20 yrs.We have been married almost 2 yrs now live with my parents and we have a lot of problems.He lied to me about not wanting to join the military.Then we eloped the day after my 18 B-day even though both our parents were really mad but after the highschool graduation he told me he was going into training not college.He is in Iraq right now while i am in college studying.I went out last night with a few friends.One of them is a guy from my history class that i help with stuff.I came home a half an hour past my curfew and think this is very unfair!
2007-02-19 01:12:19 · 22 answers · asked by Sophie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mom actually told me i was grounded and if i did not like it i could move out!
2007-02-19 01:14:36 · update #1
I cant afford to leave my parents !parents pay for my college tuition!
2007-02-19 01:20:15 · update #2
It doesn't matter how unfair you think the conditions are; it's her house and therefore her rules. You will appreciate this when you get a house of your own.
On the other hand she is being unreasonable, and your best thing to do is talk it through with her. I agree it is unreasonable for you to be that restricted as long as you are respectful to her.
2007-02-19 01:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You live in her house - you follow her rules.
Obviously you were old enough to run off and get married. So grow up and move out.
Do you have a job. Your husband is in the military, how much money is he sending you?
Do you have a dependent military ID card? Do you know that the military gives extra money to service members that are married to cover family expenses. Basic Allowance for Housing -BAH
This all adds up to a few hundred extra dollars a month.
Oh yeah, he's in Iraq - combat pay.
Sounds to me like he was just using you. Get some money from him, move out and set your own rules.
2007-02-19 01:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by smjohnson55 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You live under your parents roof. Thus, you have a responsibility to follow the rules of that household. It's their house, they paid for it, they maintain it, and just because you live there doesn't give you the right to come and go as you damned well please.
If you don't like the rules, then you can pack your stuff and get out and go play with those friends and cheat on your husband by being with other men. If you were my wife and i found out you were out with a guy and i don't give a damn if you had other friends i'd divorce you so fast it would make your head spin.
2007-02-19 01:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
At 19 years old you can't get grounded. Your parents have to accept that you are an adult now, being married has nothing to do with it. You are an adult! You should try very hard to find another place to live or offer to pay a little room and board money to your parents. Grounding a 19 year old?? Come on!
2007-02-19 01:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do I think your parents are being unreasonable? Yes. Here’s the solution—move out (after all, you are a grown, married woman) and then you won’t have this problem. If you can’t afford to move out then maybe you shouldn’t have gotten married.
Edited to add this after you added ‘Additional Details’:
Well, Mom told you told what you go could do—follow her rules or move out. It’s as simple as that. Again, if you can’t afford to move out, why are you married? If you want to play at being an adult you have to accept ALL the responsibilities, which include footing your own bills (college expenses and living expenses). If you want your parents to foot the bills, you play by their rules.
2007-02-19 01:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's why when you marry someone you should ALWAYS move out and if you can't live with them, you need to live without them. You shouldn't be married. And your mom made a bad decision on letting your boyfriend move into your house. Do you work? Showing some kind of responsibility would get them off your case.
2007-02-19 01:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by BigAndBeautiful 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems you're parents don't treat you as an equal adult as you have a curfew.
You'll need to sort out your boundaries with your parents, as it sounds like the trust is gone.
Also a 5 year plan is required for you.
What are you going to do? What is required of you? Who's paying for College?
Are you financially independant within your home?
Answer these questions for yourself and put some action into what you need to do.
And yes Life can be unfair.
2007-02-19 01:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it does seem extream but you are still their daughter and while in their home need to follow their rules. 19 is not fully grown up I had a child at 19. 2 children by 21 and was living on my own not easy. my husband was more than I could cope with.
2007-02-19 01:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You still live under her roof and are expected to abide by her rules. You already upset them by eloping and then moving back into their house. You have two options now. You can abide by the rules, call them when you are running late and continue to live there or you can get a job, go to school and find a place to live.
2007-02-19 01:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by fly guy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1) well you are married !
2) you do not galli waggin in the night with other man!
3) you live under your parents roof!
4)you got to respect their rules
5) Your husband is fighting for your freedom ! And he trusts you !
2007-02-19 01:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋